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Thanks, guys! Spent a few hours with G and M last night, worked out, and just hung out for a little while. Felt totally comfortable and expressed my affection openly within the boundaries we have all agreed on. It felt very natural and was not awkward in the slightest. I think putting all of...

Big developments continue. My wife has made it clear to both G and M that she is not interested in furthering a romantic relationship with either of them at this time. This wasn't really a big shock to me, as she and I have realized through this process that we approach secondary relationships...

Some big changes to our "quad" dynamic today... My wife (R) decided to share her feelings towards my other partner (G) and her husband (M) today. She has been involved (more so physically than romantically) with both of them over the last few months. However, she has been distant when we are...

Thank you all for the replies. The feeling of anxiety has subsided for now. Luckily, both G and I are very open to communicating with one another, and we are similar enough to know when one of us is acting "off". I've talked with her openly about my feelings and she has explained why she is...

*continued from above* I feel myself instinctually pulling away from the situation. That old feeling is returning, the one that tells me that I'm going to be hurt. The one that tells me not to chance the potential despair for the beauty and warmth that could be had. G can sense the...

Hit a bump in the road... I am the type of person to feel my emotions very strongly, I always have been. In the past, I learned not to open up to others. While I could experience the highest highs - pleasure, joy, euphoria, pure happiness - I was also vulnerable to the darkest lows - sadness...

The date went really well! We were both behaving ourselves, for the most part (nothing outside of the agreed upon boundaries), there were some intense embraces and quite a bit of impassioned hand holding. Only a couple of times did I feel like I was on the verge of jumping the gun, but I was...

Now that I've been chronicling my experiences with this quad over the last month or so, I've decided to continue writing as things progress. Feel free to respond if you would like, but I am not necessarily always going to be posing a question. Some of my posts (such as this one), may just be...

So. It seems that my mom is coming around to the idea a little more as the days go on. She continues to see interactions between myself and my gf on Facebook, and is fully aware of who the person is (this is what made her question me about it initially). She was silent on the subject for...

Hello friends. Question for the forum... So I attempted to have "the talk" with my mother when she started questioning some differences in my behavior recently. It was pretty clear to me that she had some idea about my previously closed marriage opening up and she was the first person to really...

So G and myself have a date set up for next weekend! This will be the first time the two of us have gone out and done anything together as a "couple", rather than just as friends. Going out to a movie. Very exciting! Also, I believe M and my wife will be spending some time together that same...

Just wanted to post an update for all of you who have been so helpful thus far: In the interest of clarity, I will be referring to the following people with letters going forward - my wife = "R", other man = "M", and other woman = "G". Anyway, M and I agreed to meet up and have a conversation...

Thank you all for the words of encouragement. I will be sure to keep this updated as things move along!

@kdt26417, Thank you for the encouraging words. I'm still new to all of this, but most of the responses I've received so far regarding the feasibility of this setup have been less than inspiring. I really appreciate the positivity that you are offering. Call it naivete, but I do have a...

@magdlyn, Thanks for the reply. I appreciate the suggestions and advice you offered. The four of us had a fairly in-depth conversation last night following the male friend's second session with his therapist. He opened up a lot about how he is feeling, his fears, his doubts, realistic...

@nycindie, Thank you for the reply. I really like your suggestion. Honestly, I view the man in this couple as a great friend and he and I do have many interests in common. I haven't really considered the idea of spending time together, just he and I, as friends with everything else that has...

@laerhk, My hesitation comes from confusion regarding where we stand currently. I would not refer to her as my "girlfriend", if only because that would imply a specific kind of relationship that her husband is not open to at this time. I have very strong feelings for her and I want to express...

@graviton, To address your concerns specifically: 1. I don't know a whole lot about how these things typically work, but the quad you are referring to seems very comfortable for all of us, with things as they currently are. I can't tell the future, but I can foresee that, if he becomes open...

Hello all, This is the first time I've ever posted here. I'm new to poly relationships (been dabbling for the last 6 months or so). I'm male and currently married to my amazing wife, who I have known for the last 10 years. The poly relationships we are currently developing are with another...