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I had a rough mental health week. Life threw three big things at me last week and it was hard to handle all of them. It would have been hard to handle just one of them. On top of that I have the CPTSD, anxiety, etc. So that got triggered. I ended up having a very bad couple of days of emotional...

We had a most wonderful camping weekend!! It was as tiring as one can imagine, 6 hours in the car with 3 kids, 3 adults, camping gear, set up and t we had moments of beauty, too, many of them. My child thrived and was so happy with her new friends. The first night we arrived after midnight and...

She is mulling over the possibility of us becoming a family and cohabitating all of us together someday. She is open to the idea, but wants to take some time to think about it. Very healthy. She is very poly! She has her own boyfriend too! And has had metamours before. Dino just recently said...

It's definitely a newer relationship, and we are all being mindful of this. It's Phoenix and not having a/c is a life or death situation. Not everyone can afford a one week stay at a hotel on a moment's notice. I don't use my master bedroom/bathroom except for guests, so it was a natural...

Nice to see you again too Magdlyn!

And then enter Dino. I met him and had been chatting for 2 months on a dating app for autistic people. We met on our first date with him presenting a card game, which he laid out on the table. We began to talk once the game had started. I'm also autistic and this was a sweet way to connect. We...

I went on two dates with a gentleman who I suspect may be cheating on his wife. So, I told him I would love to be his friend and do friend stuff, but I am not comfortable dating a married man without some kind of permission or blessing from his wife. Which he was unable to give, and admitted...

It's been a LONG time since I've posted an update! I have been doing a lot of personal work, growth, and I'm in a better place now, with more growth ahead. Partner update---- 37 year old did not work out. I am learning to listen to my body and if I start to feel anxious or tense inside, then...

I have taken some time away from this blog, but not away from life. Jay kept sending me letters in the mail, alternating sweet ones with nasty ones stating why the relationship failure was my fault. One of the sweet ones had my last name hyphenated with his last name, as if we were married. I...

It's been a month, time for an update. The short story is that Jay started to show the narcissistic cycle, which I had suspected he might given our past history of dating last time . . . and after the third time of that I let him go. I don't need to go into the details except where it relates...

I agree that you need to go and enjoy yourself, and you don't need to feel guilty about not telling everything to your children at that age. If it develops into a longer-lasting relationship, at some point, when they are much older, you might tell them. In the meantime, you might talk to them...

Another wonderful week of no drama! Sid returned from his sex positive retreat, announcing that he has a new comet partner! Yay him! She lives across the country but the have been video chatting for months, and finally were able to meet at the retreat. He is planning to go to another retreat to...

An overdue update. I was doing some "hinge work" to fill the needs of my partners and also of myself, as well as balancing time with my youngest child who lives with me half the time. I sat down and had a heart to heart talk with both partners. With Jay it continues to be, so far, a very...

Yeah--- I asked him about this, and remember his policy for me was don't ask don't tell . . . so he was following his own rules. He was going to tell me he had a date but not with whom or what would happen (other than STI safety agreement). Now he understands my strong preference is to know at...

I reread what I wrote and it does sound very confusing. Sleep deprivation probably. I think Sid can't understand why I need another person unless I'm not satisfied with him. And also that Sid is half a relationship whereas Jay is a full relationship. Remember he's been mono his whole life. It's...

So, Jay's date had some interesting effects. First of all I was able to experience this from the other point of view, of having my primary partner on a date. I was very happy, but then I became very unhappy as he checked in and said he'd be home by 9, then midnight, then he wasn't going to make...

Oh my goodness!!! What a week!!! Twists and turns galore! Ending on a good note. The week was to go as follows: I was going to skip the weekly Weds night with Sid and instead do a rare Saturday overnight hosting Sid at my house. And then I was going to visit Jay at his work on Weds evening...

Another Sunday night recap of the week. Sid and I had a lovely date on Weds night. It will be 10 days until we see each other again, skipping this coming Weds and instead having an overnight on the following Saturday. Although Sid and I have a lot of energy, Sid is in his 60's and I have a...

I think you have had some great advice already. I just wanted to add my agreement that there should be some safe off-limit spaces so you won't be walking in on them-- what a shock that had to be!! I would also have reacted strongly, not having been prepared for that! It sounds like she's not...

Honestly, I think with kids and family it's difficult to be spontaneous, and I wonder how his other partners with kids are able to do that. Even the kids need some structure and the security of knowing what to expect-- and they must have a generous support system. Anyway, I'm with you on this...