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    Talking it out

    Had the best father's day! Hubby and I have very set traditions for mother's day (same activity, different locations every year), but father's day is just whatever activity we want with no real theme other than it's something super fun for the whole family and obviously something Hubby is...
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    The best way to get your ex back (It's not what you think)

    Damn. You're right. I'll work on that. 😉
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    The best way to get your ex back (It's not what you think)

    Gross. If you break up, then you break up. Why are you trying to get someone back if the relationship is dysfunctional? Sure, if time passes and circumstances change then relationships can work between exes but immediately after? Why break up in the first place?
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    Talking it out

    I had a dream that Boy, little girl, and I visited his parents. Boy and LG were playing in the forest, sunshine beaming through, just being their adorable selves as his mom and I watched from the back porch. She makes a comment about how good he is with her. I say he would have made a great dad...
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    Talking it out

    Oh my, life is good. The summer of vacations is going so well. Just finalized dates for another one next month. Hubby and I will be celebrating our anniversary, we will do a family thing, then Boy and I will be celebrating his birthday. I'm so happy to have fun things planned with each of them...
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    To understand why people avoid you

    What the heck is "courtship phase" though? That is not terminology used where I am which is why I asked what it means. You seem very focused on childhood trauma. Are you okay? Do YOU have trauma you're dealing with and hope that by sharing the prevalence, you can find others to share with...
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    To understand why people avoid you

    But were you in a relationship? By "courting" I assume the getting to know/feeling out compatibility stage, not an actual full blown relationship. I don't ghost people I actually know well. I send a "this isn't going to work because of" and list the reasons then if they are drama causers block...
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    To understand why people avoid you

    My parents are the type to keep people in their lives no matter what. I grew up seeing people take advantage or disappear/come back repeatedly or be unhealthy in other ways and my parents just... accept it? Try to talk about it occasionally? "Forgive and forget" repeatedly? I made a decision...
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    Polyfidelity

    Much like icesong, my partners and I are frequently FUNCTIONALLY closed (not actively dating and there are only 3 of us) but we are all always THEORETICALLY open (open to new connections). Occasionally one of us will go on a few dates, but it has been... Two and a half years? I think?... since...
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    Talking it out

    Thank you all for the kind thoughts ☺️ I've been chatting with someone who is SO not my romantic/relationship type but would be fun for something short term/casual. She's totally on the same page about it, too. Fingers crossed! I hope your date goes well!
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    Talking it out

    I'm another year older. Uneventful birthday as usual, but I got some amazing gifts from my loves. I've been consistently losing weight as well. My libido is insane so I've been flirting on dating apps even though I really don't have time for that shit. I'd make time for the right woman, though.
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    Coming out as polyamorous is hard

    I know a lot of open/polyamorous people who get legally married because it's so much easier to get health benefits, tax breaks, etc with the paperwork done. Marriage has a lot of issues beyond its rooted history in the patriarchy, perpetuating gender roles, etc. I think it's totally valid to...
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    Research Participants

    Agreed! And lots of opportunities to explain your own dynamic if provided terms don't apply.
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    Talking it out

    Oh, gosh, people... Hubby's bosses are trying to convince us not to move in the next year or so (plan was start looking for new jobs next summer, move when found). I don't really care for the town we live in. Very republican. I'd love to move somewhere more liberal. There are good people here...
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    Partner wants restrictions on my dates

    Why are you dating this guy then?
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    Partner wants restrictions on my dates

    There are so many different ideologies under the umbrella of polyamory that I don't understand this boundary, personally. Say Amy dates Ben. Ben identifies as poly but is a strict relationship anarchist or parallel poly type and has no interest in meeting, hanging out with, or relating in any...
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    Talking it out

    It is definitely a step in the right direction! Hopefully it continues and becomes the norm instead of the exception. I'm feeling relieved. Shred of faith in humanity preserved!
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    If it's a TIA instead of a full stroke, there often aren't any noticeable symptoms once it's over (other than fatigue, but even that isn't guaranteed). It can be a sign of future risk of stroke or other issues though. Seizures are no joke, I'd think his care team would want to do a ct.
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    Talking it out

    I keep refreshing my tab with the cnn coverage of the chauvin trial. My last shred of faith in humanity is hopeful for justice. The pit in my stomach is not hopeful at all.
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    Not on same page about bisexual wife exploring polyamory

    I've been quietly reading this thread from the get go but not had anything meaningful to add. To me, though, it seems @straighthusbandbiwife is seeking a poly group that will agree with him then gets mad/leaves the conversation when poly folks don't completely agree that he's right for his...
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