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I wanted to give an update after everything that’s happened. My partner and I had some very intense conversations. At first, he said if I wanted poly he’d leave, but then he changed and said he didn’t want to lose me, that he’d try counselling, even that he’d try poly with conditions. But I...

We had a really serious conversation today — lots of tears but also a lot of honesty. At first he said if I wanted poly he would leave, but as we kept talking he admitted he doesn’t want to lose me and agreed to try couples counselling. That really surprised me, since I thought he’d just walk...

I think that’s what I’m struggling with most—he doesn’t want to talk about it or deal with past trauma, and on top of that there are other relationship issues (money, communication, feeling controlled at times). It leaves me unsure how much I can realistically carry on my own. - JJ

Yeah, I’ve heard that too—that mono/poly can work, but it’s really tough and often doesn’t last without a lot of trust and communication. That’s part of why I’m unsure. We already have some other struggles in our relationship (financial stress, emotional disconnects, and communication issues)...

Hey again — wanted to post a bit of an update and get some feedback. It’s been a lot emotionally. I’ve tried to gently bring up poly again recently, as something I’d still like to explore someday. But the conversation really didn’t go well. My partner said he doesn’t want it, full stop. He told...

Found out my partner actually has tried poly before — he was the one who brought it up in a past relationship. But it ended really badly. She basically ghosted him in real life — just left and moved away without saying anything. Now it makes more sense why he’s scared or guarded about this...

I read the article on disentanglement in relationships and it hit me harder than I expected. Basically, even if you do all the “prep” before opening up (boundaries, convos, rules, books), it can still fall apart if you haven’t unraveled the codependency that builds up in monogamy. It reframed...

Hi again everyone 👋 Edited by mod: first thread for reference: https://polyamory.com/threads/exploring-poly-feelings-in-a-committed-relationship.158672/ After reflecting more on the incredibly thoughtful responses I’ve gotten (thank you again!), I wanted to share something that’s been sitting...

Thanks for advice so far and for context I am pansexual and demisexual. My partner is bisexual but feels more comfortable with female partners.

Hi everyone, I’m new here and exploring a lot of thoughts and emotions right now. I’m a 24-year-old woman in a loving, committed relationship with my 27-year-old male partner — we’ve been together for almost 2 years, and he’s my “nest” person. Someone I care deeply about and want to build a...