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For sure! I started out understanding very well the obvious attractive promises of polyamory, with no grasp of how much work and growth would be required to practice it properly. As I got started trying to grow into learning proper communication, and healthy respect for others, I then...

4 years later update! I can't believe how time is flying... so four more years have passed and my life is truly blessed. Since the last update, my nesting partner and I got married, we've each found and lost a few relationships, but we are both settled into a rather lovely life right now. We...

Hi! Of course advice about a topic that involves a trauma can only go so far, but it's possible that this may help... A lot of times we treat intimacy and sex as being the same thing, and in fact they aren't, at least intimacy is much, much more than just sex. What struck me in your opening...

Absolutely. But if the trip is coming, tickets are purchased etc. relying on him to step up in this case may not be productive.

Speaking as someone who dealt with a lot of hard years figuring out how to handle poly while carrying anxiety around my neck like an anvil, I'll say that it sounds like this has unlocked an anxious issue for Joe, and a major one. You need to find out why CA was ok but the Caribbean isn't, and...

rthat, thank you for sharing this. You are navigating one of the trickiest parts of poly and your feelings are very common. Imbalance helps us grow, though, as you have realized. When you are both in NRE with someone, everything is so great that few problems come up! My wife and I have almost...

That age gap isn't an issue if they are loving spending time with each other, but it almost certainly has opened some tough doors for you. How are you doing with this? A 26 year old who is great in bed is the kind of the thing that a lot of male partners struggle to "compete" with. Is...

My nesting partner and I were having one of our frequent check-ins with each other recently, and we started talking about the way we both have jealousy flare up occasionally. We each broke down where it comes from and found that in each of our cases it is tied to our love languages. So...

Wow, I wrote all of that in May 2018... So, I thought I would come in and re-introduce myself... I wrote all of the above very soon after my separation, and much of it was, in hindsight, wishful thinking and hopes... but I'm rather excited to come in here now after this much time to say that...

Thanks everyone for the replies :) My head is in a great space right now since spending time thinking things over. I really do believe that poly fits with who I fundamentally am as a person. I'm just simply going to be open to enjoying my life right now and when and if a romantic opportunity...

Thanks for the reply... I'm absolutely remaining open minded about things for now, I'm still in a self-healing phase, anyway. I do think that on an emotional level my old gf is right about me, though. I've always felt that there are different relationships for different people, and different...

Hi everyone, I'm going to try to make this brief, but... yeah, it won't be. I've been aware of the rough basics of what the poly life is all about for awhile, but I've been slightly nudged to be here from an unlikely source. So, me. I'm 42, Canadian, separated after 20 years of a...