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I did this-- I started one relationship (well, with a couple) and then started seeing another guy within a few months. The thing that helped was that I really was only seeking secondary-ish relationships with all involved. (hierarchy is a complicated topic, but worked for me to keep my head...

First, make friends with poly people. Meet-ups, munches, etc., are a great resource. Go to them first with the intention of developing a network of like-minded friends (not for finding partners). Make friends, and meet their friends. Second, now that you know a lot of poly people, start looking...

Everyone does D/s differently, so there's no easy answer to your question. It might be worthwhile to sit down and have a discussion about what D/s means for everyone involved, why they were drawn to it, how it has played out in their histories, what works for them, what doesn't work...

I have the experience of being in one relationship that is explicitly secondary (and even prescriptive secondary, based on the discussion above, though that's just my initial take) and one relationship with someone who doesn't follow hierarchy, though it has some "flavors" of secondary (I...

I've enjoyed reading through this thread. I am somewhat solo, I suppose. For almost three years, I have spent my weekends with a M/F couple, and we go on vacations together. I am close to both of them individually, but he is the person in my life who is the closest to something primary-ish...

If you don't feel comfortable talking to him about this, then you might want to first work on finding ways to be more comfortable bringing up "big subject" conversations, and work on your communication skills. It's important to have strong communication skills in any relationship, but...

It really helps me to see how different people do things (differently!), since it helps me get perspective on what the heck I'm doing. (I sometimes feel like I have a good grasp on all of it, but sometimes feel like I'm making it up as I go.) In any case, the card in the OP is amusing, and...

Keep in mind that you can move as slowly as you want. If you're not sure how you feel, make sure she knows that, and then take as much time as you need to figure it out. It's not about whether or not to have a relationship with her. You already have that-- it's just been friendship for a long...

I think that "bisexual" is an accurate diagnosis for me-- in mainstream psychogical terms, it describes my conduct. I identify as queer, though, because I don't accept the gender binary and biological sex doesn't determine the likelihood that I will be interested in someone. "Pansexual" is only...

This is just an outsider's perspective, but it sounds like he is in a hard place. You've described the relationship structure as having been, for a long time, that they were primaries, with a secondary relationship between you and him. That can be a stable long-term structure. You've decided...