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My new boyfriend is likely monoamorous, and he is having issues with polyamory. He is trying to accept it. Can anyone give me some advice on how to handle this, or what I can do to help?

I gave a speech/sermon/presentation today at my UU community. It was well received!! Everyone said "interesting" or "great speech" or whatever and we had a great forum after where we answered questions candidly and had a few laughs. I'm so proud of myself for making it through my first public...

John had started dating Marina, and I really like her. In fact, I have a crush on her. She says that she wants to try a relationship with me "eventually." We have kissed several times, held hands and such, but nothing more. That's not really the point of this though. I'm having anxiety attacks...

I'm doing a presentation on polyamory at the Unitarian universalists community here this next week. I was wondering if you all would give me some "be sure to include" for it. I am going to be working it in with the principles of Unitarian universalists My topics covered so far are the tie ins...

Anyone here run a group locally, either one for awareness or one for fellowship? I will be starting a UUPA group here in the next few weeks/months and I wanted to see if anyone had some insight

A short background on the issue-- Ronan and I are long-time friends and sometime lovers. He just lost a baby with another woman in December. He says he wants to move here to be with me, and live in a V with me and my husband, John. He made a commitment to me to do so, and to talk to me every...

My best friend, R, whom I have been sexually involved with in the past, expressed a desire to try our relationship again. If you read my blog, you know a little about mine and R's past, but our most recent togetherness was over a year and we broke up because I wanted more from him. Now he is...

My boyfriend of two months, V, has three daughters, two ex-step-daughters that he is very involved in their lives and one bio daughter that he sees almost daily. He's been divorced for awhile now. He is cautious (understandably) about integrating me into his daughter's lives, especially his...

I've been seeing this guy V for awhile, though we just made things official two months ago and physical a month ago. I think that I think I love him. I'm not sure how to broach the subject with him and normally I wouldnt but I'm scared and I'm afraid he will think I'm pulling away from him if...

I know we have quite a few LDRs here, so I have a survey thing, a little get to know you What kind of relationship is your LDR (primary, secondary, partner, gf/bf, etc) What kind of contact do you have and how often Any tips for others in or looking into a LDR

Trinity and I have agreed to start things again, very very slowly. Right now, it's just flirting, touching, and closed-mouth kisses. Next is tongue, but she gets to decide when that change is to be made. After that, I don't know where we will go, but I wanted to ask you all, what are the steps...

I found out I was pregnant. Then the next day I lost the baby. I haven't told F anything, I'm thinking I shouldn't.

So, I found out today that my birth control wasn't active, and wont be until the 26th. Ive had unprotected sex then, with F only, on the days I ovulated. This means a 67-81 % chance of pregnancy. I have a couple of options, so what do you think I should do. A - say nothing, avoid sex until...

So I found out that T occasionally partakes in the smoking of certain herbal relaxants. This is a deal breaker to me. I have kids that I dont have custody of, and I could loose my time with my daughter if I was "hanging out with drug users" and F is a sheriff deputy in the county we were in...

Is it ok to set boundaries After something happened - like that I cant handle it makes me feel X is that how you are suppose to set boundaries? there is a lot of talk on doing it but not much in the way of advice or instructions on how to do so in the real world. Whst boundaries did you set...

SO I have my husband, and my boyfriend and my girlfriend and ny boyfriend and girlfriend are boyfriend and girl friend. So i have a triad at the end of one side of my V I wish I had a name for the whole of my relationships.

T and I had a long heart to heart last night, and the night ending with an amazing threesome with T, F, and me. They fell asleep together and I got up with the kids (hers spent the night too, so she didnt have to have her mom watch them). I stepped into the room while they were asleep and I...

F's girl toy T is staying the night tomorrow. She said she wants to spend the evening with me. I'm not sure how I feel about it. I don't know what her motives are, and I don't trust that she would be truthful about them if I asked. It's possible that she just wants to hang, since she asked me...

I have moved to a point where I want my secondary to be on the same level as my primary, of equal importance (though that word is inadequate to describe what Im talking about) i talked to John, my primary, and he is glad Ive found someone that I feel this way about, it has always been my...

For those of you who live with - or near - your partner(s): How long have you been together with your partner(s)? What is your current living arrangement? When did you move in to your current arrangement? Why did you move into your current arrangement? What are some struggles that the...