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Hi, I am in the same situation and am wondering the same thing. My husband is poly and I am mono and we have been experimenting for over 5 years and still haven't had what I would consider a good experience. He is caring and going slow and I often feel ok with it, but then, sort of out of...

HI! I am wondering if anyone out there who is experienced, or sort of experienced with poly would be willing to talk to me. The situation is that I sometimes have strong feelings of insecurity and doubt about poly, and it has become hard for my husband to listen to my fears. He feels that I am...

Your responses are very kind, thank you I was really surprised to hear from anyone and felt so supported and understood by your responses. It brought me to tears just having someone say sorry. It is so sad to me, that we can't seem to find a way to talk to each other about this without...

It is with great sadness that I have come to the conclusion that I can't deal with my husband who is poly and I am monogamous. From the start things went wrong with us.. he texted old girlfriends, visited them on weekends, and i was sad at home. Next he developed a sexual relationship with a...

Thank you all for your great responses. I really appreciate your perspective. Here is an update on the situation. P has continuously discussed with her that is it is unacceptable for him to be in a relationship with her, if she insists on not talking, or making any contact with me, Even wishing...

My husband is poly and I am monogamous. Also there is a big age difference between us. I am older. We are very much in love and when we met my husband, P, told me he was poly and I was interested. The first experience was when he visited an old girlfriend in another state and planned a weekend...

I think the advice about species, was to stick to poly people, asking mono or straight folks out led to disappointment. I am definitely human.

New to poly and Bi-sexuality I married a non-monogamous man who has lovingly encouraged me to explore my sexuality as we take on the adventure of polyamory. I have known, since I was young that I was attracted to both men and women, but never talked about it or really explored it, other than...

I find this discussion fascinating. I have been wondering for a long time how, if at all a Mono person can really make Polyamory work. This particular story makes me very sad, to see how much time, effort and emotional work has been done to make it work, while taking care of a baby and dealing...

Herpes I have a question about herpes. My partner has just begun a relationship with a trans woman who has herpes. My partner has a pretty active case of psoriasis with sores on his legs and arms. Psoriasis is not a contagious disease, but I am concerned about the partner with herpes infecting...

This is SO helpful. I am so grateful to all of you, it feels really good to get such thoughtful and kind responses to my problem. I want you to know that already we have worked on some of these issues, with your help, and I am feeling much more positive that this is a great thing for us as a...

Thank you, that was helpful. I agree that micromanaging is destructive. Interesting idea to let go and trust. How do you do that? It is a mystery to me how people can trust one another. I have been so hurt in the past, I have a lot of healing to do. I am not really sure that Polyamory is filling...

As newcomers to poly we agreed to take things very slowly, it is what suited both of us. My husband is still very cautious about having a sexual relationship with this person due to their working in a small office together. He has also let the person know that we are happily married and intend...

I am married to a wonderful man whom I love very much. When we got married i agreed to work with him on having a poly relationship. Everything we discussed was about my being involved with a third person. With all of us being friends and potentially lovers. It sounded lovely but we didn't have...

Whoa, Your strong response is interesting. I hope you say more. I am not sure what is causing your reaction. I know I feel uneasy about this arrangement, but I keep thinking that somehow I will be able to get used to this.

I completely relate to you on this. My husband flew off to see an old girlfriend, after proclaiming himself to be poly. I did a lot of things recommended to me, I read about polyamory, got lots of support from a counselor, planned fun things for myself for the weekend he was away, but I really...

Before my partner and I get married, he wanted to "test" how we would do as a poly couple. He arranged a weekend with an old lover and I agreed to see how I would feel about it. It didn't work out as we all expected and he cut it short and came home after I freaked out when he turned off the...

Thanks for you response. I cried when I read it because it so accurately describes how I feel and helps me to make sense of why it is taking me so long to feel safe again. I would love to know what the middle ground is. What are the steps, and do you think it is possible to go back and start...

You folks are so awesome, each response is so thoughtful and really helps Let me tell you what has happened and some of my thoughts about it. After the awful night, of trying to get in touch and texting and leaving messages. He finally calls me after I leave a message on her phone. He is...

Thank you for responding. I find this forum so helpful. There are so many caring people. And right now, I need someone to care. I guess there is some comfort to know this is normal, but how do you do it when you feel so bad? These emotions are so strong and I feel unable to control myself. I...