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I'm liking OK Cupid quite a lot, although I've had mixed success so far - chatted with one person, messaging a poly person (just as potential friends), gave up on chatting with a third person because she never messaged back. Last couple times I was on, no one else was, so I didn't get to chat...

Thinking, Looking, Studying Biology :p I've spent a fair bit of time on OK Cupid lately. Added a lot of people to my "favorites" so I can see when they come online - somehow it's less intimidating to me to try to chat rather than sending a message. Spent a lot of time browsing profiles...

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This was a bit of a "doh!" moment for me - my guy has ADD / ADHD and it took me a while to work out that, if I want to talk to him about something serious, I generally have to bring it up in small pieces 5 or 6 different times before I can get him to make a decision. If I push to finish the...

Disclaimer - I'm pretty new to poly myself, so feel free to take my advice with a bit of salt. :) For me, some of the red flags in your description of your situation are that he says that being with just you bores him, and that you say he looks at you with disgust. I'm going to use a food...

I know some people here have tried dating sites - OK Cupid is popular. I just joined it, very recently - no luck yet but I met another poly woman there who has had some luck with the site. The nice part there is that you can write that you're poly in your profile, and not have to worry about...

First, I came in to polyamory after being married; poly is the (relatively) new development in our relationship. (We were married this last summer, poly stuff came up this October or so.) However, I think I'd go for marriage even with poly. To me, marriage is a public declaration that we are...

I'll just say about The Ethical Slut, I bought it myself, and IMO it's not only a great book on things to prepare for and be aware of if you're looking at a polyamorous or more open relationship, it also has a lot of great relationship advice even if you're monogamous. I haven't finished it yet...

If you don't mind my asking, FormerUnicorn, how are you meeting all these fun and interesting people? :) I'm trying to expand my social circle myself - I really enjoy having friends and a social life, but I don't have a lot of experience at it. I'm finding the expansion phase to be quite...

Dragonflysky, thanks for posting that e-mail. As I'm thinking about looking for poly relationships, it's really nice to see a thoughtful example of how someone else has communicated that information to a possible future partner. :)

Unfortunately, Mal's writing skills are beyond MS word - it generally cannot decipher what he writes whatsoever lol. I love him, but his spelling's atrocious. :)

lol Company, that was a funny mental picture :D I ended up just talking with Mal for a couple hours last night (and then relieving some other tensions... :D) and all in all felt a lot better. I definitely agree that I'm craving other human interaction, too. I *know* a lot of people at school...

For some reason, I'm feeling very much like I'm longing badly for something tonight. I'm just not sure what it is. More friends (feeling pretty lonely without a friend group), more time with Mal, more time to myself (we're both really busy right now), another partner, maybe it's just that I'm...

The "simple label" is that I'm an agnostic atheist - I don't think there's anything out there, but I don't deny the possibility. I also identify somewhat as an atheistic pantheist. I find that I have almost "spiritual" feelings of awe, respect, and wonder when considering both the natural...

I think (in my limited experience) that yeah, their might be gender differences overall (on average / statistically), but that it really varies with individuals. My example, with my guy, Mal. Yeah, he's interested in a threesome, but honestly when it comes down to it what he wants is a mental...

I've decided to start a blog here. I've kind of been wanting a place I could blog and be more open about things for a while now, not just about poly, but about life in general. Most of my family wouldn't exactly approve of a lot of things I think or believe. I don't have a lot of friends at the...

I was really inspired by this post, Redpepper. It put into words a lot of things that I feel strongly but have a hard time expressing. :)

Definitely one of the things we've realized, especially with losing our social group, is that we need/want to have more friends in general. It's hard. I have a hard time introducing myself to people, much less getting groups together. I tend to be a wallflower. But I'm working on my people...

Another long post, sorry. :p I last posted with the thread "Long Post - Complex Situation" (http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=3831). I'll summarize by saying that as of right now, it's not working out. It turned out that Beth's feelings were more divided than she was initially...

Wow. I guess I was right that things could move really fast. Tuesday night, Caleb was suicidal and we were all up all night. He is now under suicide watch at a local hospital. After that, Adam and I have essentially been staying with Beth. Yesterday we mostly just spent time together, taking...