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I think you need to construct what you want to say a little better, especially with the paragraphs being too long and convoluted. It's like a stream of consciousness. The gist of it seems to be were lots of arguments and people not knowing what they really want. If there are a lot of arguments...

I posted somewhere on my introduction about this. I think a fast growing segment of polyamory is of the polyfi type, people expanding their relationship to include more people, but in a closed format. A lot of mono people can understand this, due to the economic, time, and fun reasons. These...

I believe you should screen anyone that is going to be impacting your life to any great level. Whilst the occasional uncomfortable morning isn't too big a drama, doing it every weekend isn't worth it for you. You may want to give people more time than looking at a dating profile though, if...

I think most here understand what polygamy is, I just feel that polyamory covers polygamy under its scope. They aren't separate, it's similar to something like poly fidelity being a subset of polyamory. People may not want to associate polyamory with polygamy for various political reasons, but...

Isn't polygamy covered under polyamory? "Polyamory is the practice, desire, or acceptance of having more than one intimate relationship at a time with the knowledge and consent of everyone involved." Just feels weird when someone says "that's a polygamy term not a poly term".

So, 20% of people are involved with someone else when they start a new relationship. Just add the "people who broke up with someone, then a few days later, started up with someone" on top of that. Think it's not at least 30%? ;) peterfox.com.au/pre_marriage_poaching.htm

My point was most mono people go into relationships (at least the non-fuck-buddy type ones) with the hope that they will last forever. If you want me to limit that, I'll say "most mono people I know." I don't know why people get antsy with others generalizing. Generalizations don't cover every...

I think you'll find most people in the monogamy world go into most relationships hoping it will be "one that lasts forever." I'm not sure what the culture is where you are at, but besides people who are "bachelors for life," everyone I know that is mono is like this. It is also the image...

Seeing that the average relationship lasts about ~7 months (at least from a few different sites I found) and marriage around ~7 years, why are all these mono relationships ending? I know there is no one answer. But a common thing you will find is someone struggling, who finds a catalyst to break...

First, your main aim seems to be having the father around your child. So with this in mind, tell Omari that he will have a child soon and needs to sort out this Mark issue, as it is stressful to you. Women who are pregnant want certain things to be "set in stone," such as who is going to live...

That's not always the case, though. Often relationships are ended because they find someone that is more compatible with them. Because they have a connection with you, they may first broach the subject of "the three of us can live together," but sometimes they do not. I guess it all comes down...

Fidelia hit the nail on the head with their post, so I've got nothing more to add on that front. Just a question, though-- if Harlan felt the same way towards another 3 or 4 women, would you feel comfortable inviting them all into your family, or is there a limit in your mind as to where that...

Firstly, there is a distinct difference between a woman having female partners and male partners. Regardless of what some want to preach, there are physical differences and increased risks with male partners. If you want to beat this, you first have to understand it might not be entirely...

Poly people are more aware of NRE (new relationship energy) or puppy love than most. Why do you think it goes away after some time with someone? Are there any neurobiologists here that could possibly explain why "new" things mostly trigger the hormones? I'm starting to think fear is one way to...

It sounds like Viggo is new to all of this, and a relationship newbie, to boot. In my mind, you can't love someone more than someone else, so him saying that is irrelevant. You can, however, be more compatible with others (have more interests, talk more, etc.), which is what he might mean...

Yes but I guess I see it a bit like this. If one of your new V partners gave you a STD then eventually you'd infect your old V partners. Old V trust you to be careful, you in turn trust the new V people to be careful but if they aren't they are breaking more than just your trust (depending upon...

Yes, I don't like people acting on impulse when it comes to such things. If someone comes to me with, "I want to talk about something I'm feeling," that is a different thing than, "I feel this way, so I want you to do blah blah," with no explanation. Basically, I don't like people reaching...

If you're in two Vs then you're basically relying upon 4 people to not have unprotected sex with outsiders.... I'd find that difficult. It's easy to see how STDs transfer through open poly communities like a wildfire.

I don't find your scenario illogical, though. Using different names for people helps you identify them quicker, That is one thing I would expect my gf to say to me if she has a problem with it. It's also not illogical to want to feel special, as that is a basic human characteristic that we...

I like how you have written this. Too many people forget that our values can be changed and not everything we think we need is actually a "need." Most of the time it's a want, especially in relationships. The best way to know whether a boundary, or whatever, is going to work is to see if it's...