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Along with what MonoVCPHG says, you just have to let go. Let go of caring about what other people think that aren't tightly involved in your life, it's harder than most people realize but it's also liberating. You can't control other people and how they judge you, even when you explain to them...

" Maybe a bit more context. The plan is for the 3 of us to have kids, so both of them will be having kids with me. Not sure if that matters or not. I guess with the "new" woman in the relationship (new being about 9 months in) and a newborn already here it may be best just to wait a little on...

I just want to know what names people give other women in their relationship to their kids. At first I thought using "Mum" or "mom" for both would be fine, but maybe having some distinction there would be helpful. So what names do people here use? Meema? Aunt? Real names? I'd like to use...

It just means there is a lot of difference between 1, 3 and 5.

The LDR I was in is still one of the relationships I am in now. I am just stating that LDRs are incredibly difficult, at least for people like me that love affection. We didn't really have many issues besides the lack of missing each others touch and presence. If an LDR is all someone can have...

If you read what I wrote correctly, you would see I said people that love LDRs are likely like that. I don't love LDRs. Do you?

I've never really cared about changing society to suit me. Just do my own thing and keep it private where it counts. Polyamory isn't what defines me so I don't feel the need to defend it.

We've recently come out to some family, mostly because we now have somewhat a successful triad going. Personally I don't care what they think. They can either accept it and still have me communicate to them, or not, and it stops. I'm rather independent from my family due to moving away from them...

Am I the only one who, after having done an LDR for 9+ months, gets a shiver down the spine if the thought I have to do it again comes up? I can understand how some people that love their space can love LDRs. It's like having a relationship you can put on hold. But personally, I'd rather be put...

Yes, I was looking for a word, so settled with a little codependent, but interdependence sounds like a good one. Codependence, whilst it sounds like it could be positive, the definitions suggest a completely negative thing in every case. Interdependent hasn't been ruined yet, though, so I will...

I've dealt with plenty of monoamorous people that act like this. Our time is finite, so time you spend with someone else other than her is taking time away from her. That is logical. isn't it? She could see you going on a date with this other person as time you could have spent going on a date...

A little codependency all round never hurt anyone. For instance, you may have someone in your life that is very good at something, so your skills in that area wane as they take that role. I don't really see what is bad about this, it's optimization and making the group run better, in my opinion...

Long distance for 18 months? That's like running backwards for 18 months. A few months can be achieved when you've only known them a short time, but 18 months is too long. Even if you tell them you'll try, the only way it's going to end is with you miserable or seeing other people then...

Condoms take you out of the mood, from "sexy thoughts" to "oh yeah you can die from this". I'm new to this term 'fluid bonding', but I'm the same I think, I prefer it that way. Just get your partners tested for diseases and don't have sex with people you can't trust. Not that hard is it, no...

I didn't mean "flaunt it" in the way of "going out of my way" to be obvious, just doing typical affectionate things with both of them. I just meant by holding both their hands at once, or arm around them both, or them holding hands and I holding one of theirs. Young men especially seem...

Sometimes when our triad is out and about I like flaunting the fact I have 2 girlfriends. Other times I feel like I should not flaunt it, but it's fairly obvious anyhow. Besides a few evil stares nothing terribly bad has happened when we have been out together as a group. Has anyone here had...

Sex is fun, but time to time I feel pressure to perform which makes it less fun. You also need to be rather fit to have good sex, which is a good reason to be fit I suppose. How do people here keep sex with long term, non NRE partners interesting?

Yeah now that I think about it, it does have a spam kind of heading. Sorry about that! :) And thanks for the welcome you two.

Don't tell anyone. If they visit you, or you visit them, just do what you normally do. And if they ask about it, tell them. You have to be secure in who you are if you want acceptance. People don't like thinking you are hiding things from them.

I don't really see the interest in casual sex so I'm not sure why men would feign interest just to stick their penis in a vagina. Seems like a little too much work to me? I can understand puppy love or NRE but what do men get out of random casual sex? They might as well be sticking it in a...