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When I say lifestyle I mean mean the swinger lifestyle. In my experience it's often time assumed couples & singles may have multiple partners because it's about the sex & variety outside your marriage without romantic ties. Forgive me if my questions sound bizarre; I'm basing them upon past...

Thank you for your response. You hit the nail on the head - I want to ask but don't want to sound presumptive. I had contemplated saying something along the lines of... "At the risk of sounding presumptive... You has inquired about discarding condoms after your most recent testing... I know we...

Is it appropriate to ask if the people you are seeing have other sexual partners? In the lifestyle I think it's more assumed you may have other patners. Or better I should say I've known a great deal who have played the field so to speak. Even in the lifestyle I never had more than one...

Thank you! I just shared with Hubby and he agreed he could have completely misread her because he didn't ask. There is so much we need to learn in this arena. We're very thankful that we are all on the same page as far as miscommunications - as the female counterpart said recently "this is...

KM34 - Oh, I'm not upset with him at all nor at her. That was just honest gut reaction - jealousy I didn't receive what I normally would had he and I been intimate alone. SNeacail you're right we need to have a real straight forward conversation. Hubby and I have perfected our communication...

That't the thing, we have had a conversation about poly but their actions seem to be differing from what they say they want. The first "date" we had we all talked about how empty the swinger scene seemed & how we all wanted relationships not meaningless sex. She is very affectionate with...

nycindie that's an excellent suggestion! I invited her today to go to a local event with me because we'd been talking about having a girls night out and assuming she can schedule the night off work we're all good. Picking an event to invite to seemed to work out very well. Maybe that's the...

A lil history… I’ve had my seasons of jealousy and worked through it long ago. I haven’t see the green eyed monster in a long time. When Hubby’s & my arrangement changed recently from a swinger lifestyle to being involved separately with another couple I expected there to be some emotions to...

We have discusses the 'what ifs' and we are open to separate dates. I think we have been wanting to wade in slowly because it seems that's the best way, for us at least, to take things slow so that we can manage any emotions that come up well & not feel overwhelmed. For us getting together...

Thank you so much for your helpful replies! It helped to put things in perspective a bit. Such a good point. It did take us a long time to get to this point and to want it all ‘now’ is too fast & too much. We spent so many years contemplating the what if's and worrying about the what if's...

Hubby and I have been involved in the swinger lifestyle for many years off and on. For the last couple of years we have felt (and honestly before that) that the swinger arrangement though fun was lacking in something and felt empty. We had searched for "friends with benefits" for a long time...