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Thanks GalaGirl I'm working on healing. I love her and think she trampled all over me at the same time. Feel very betrayed by the ending, that it is was an undeserved way to end. I don't even know what to do at this point except to interact as little as possible

I don't understand her anymore. I am not sure I can even be friends with her. She ended things is a very selfish fashion and I can't condone that by trying to maintain a forced friendship. She broke my heart in the way she ended things drastically without even attempting to address any issue...

I was a non-primary and my partner and I said I love you quite a lot. Unfortunately we did not last but we were not afraid of the words. Well she was the very first time. I knew she wanted to but it took her about 6 hours for her to say it. It was cute. It took about a month into the...

In her mind I am Mono, that is how it came out in the breakup and she keeps posting it as such. I wanted to finally correct that as I don't believe I had addressed it before. She applied her thoughts to a situation which does not exactly mirror ours so insight is hard to glean. I agree with...

My Ex has been posting online in comments about the dynamic and issues of Poly/Mono and I finally had enough. We haven't talked much but I did send her an email saying that labeling me mono in terms of our breakup was not fair as it is not a label I have taken. I stand between the two and...

Oh how I wish my partner had read this before our breakup. We had a discussion of issues just once and it was the night we ended. First bump and game over despite being happy and successful for months as a non-primary.

She said she wanted to be friends and still hang out some when we last talked. Good exes is easy enough to do I think, the friendship is going to be a lot more difficult.

Thanks GalaGirl, I'm trying to be as healthy as I can. Working through the thoughts, distracting myself as much as I can and spending as much time with friends as I can. It has been rough though. I am a person I strong emotion and anxiety. Both of those have tried to rip me apart. We haven't...

I'm not wanting to demonize her. I know the emotions and reasons and I still love her. I am dealing with my emotions now and I know she is dealing with hers. I also know our relationship was not perfect, I was dealing with my own issues and trying to figure out what to do about them. I wasn't...

I thank everyone who has posted so far, it has been very insightful. I hope to be able to forgive and get back to a place were we can be friends. I'm still rather hurt right now, the way it was done though unintentional was extremely painful and I'm dealing with feeling very hurt. To her it...

I'm not sure she was ready for the balancing and compromise needed to handle multiple relationships. She also said she had not planned on our relationship becoming as strong as it did. We spent most of it undefined, and for a while called it equal, but then things were shifting. I was feeling...

She knew from the beginning that I was poly curious but not decided. I was open to the idea but not sure how to try or if it was me yet. She decided after 4 months that I clearly was mono, a call which may be true but I still haven't made. I still don't know now. I think part of the pressure...

Note this was her first poly relationship and she is still recently married.

I had asked for more time a week before, but it was a want, not a need. She kind of dropped her issues as one big bomb and I broke down. I tried to discuss compromise to deal with them, but that is when she actually ended the relationship. She just decided she was done. I think it was about...

Looking for perspective. A few weeks ago, my partner of 4+ months told me she could not continue our relationship. She is married. They have been together 2 years. We had been talking for 6 months, but actually together for a little less. I thought things had been going very well, but she let me...