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im sorry HMA. thinking of you all. hugs

i KNOW!! and this is a week after ive shocked her with my tales of unconventionnality:) best big sister and funniest person i know :D

I appreciate that thought Ceoli, and agree in theory, i'll just have to see how things will turn out in practice, in my case :p (M&H share a house, 2 businesses, a car, dog, etc. together, but we nevertheless consider our relationships with each other to be 'equal but different'. As for our...

hi LR! there are, and i do! often saturdays ill go help at the store, and im the designated sign maker when im there:) ive also made a nuisance of myself in my building by leaving little flyers for the store lying around :p and also, Update! it felt so good to share again and just vent that i...

Hi Violet! wow, its amazing how much better i feel just to have written my thoughts down and have had them validated by your responses. because, to answer one of your questions, i live alone. this leaves me LOTS of time and room for my imagination to run rampant and for my little negative...

Hi HMA! Heres a little bit about H. Hes in his early thirties (as is M, Im 26). They own 2 businesses between them (stores) H runs one, and M works part time in both. We arent married, we've only been an official item for about 2 months, but we met as swingers about a year ago, so weve all had a...

dear violet.. i dont really have advice either, i just wanted you to know how completely i empathize with your situation. it really fucking SUCKS to be caught up in this kind of emotional spiral (esecially when you dont even know WHY you feel the way you do!!), which makes it so hard to think...

Hi everyone! I know I haven't been contributing much this past month..and now i come online when i need help again.. :S So things have kind of settled between M, H, and I. M and H seem to be making some pretty big steps towards resolving their communication issues, and though their relationship...

oh, tia, you are much too kind! no wonder you are loved on all sides:)

Hi Tia! i am so grateful to you and everyone else for your kind words and support, and i'll be happy to return the favour! (been thinking that lately, ive been taking a lot from here, i dont really feel all that experienced enough to give back a whole lot, but i think i'll try anyway:)) And i...

LOL NRE took me a while to figure out too! and speaking of said energy..im feeling a renewed burst of this, with both M, and H..this is not so much a question, as it is just writing down my thoughts to make them more concrete...them breaking up is a resolution of sorts, the end of a very painful...

Hyjack away!!

I noticed the same thing RP! except i sort of started out a unicorn and am sort of becoming the center of a V through force of circumstance...so not sure i count as either:P! im also curious if anyone has been in my shoes..the center of a V but truly without a 'primary' partner, as i have known...

Turns out we're not all as bad at it as i despaired! i had SUCH a good chat about it with M this morning, and even though things are still difficult and complicated, she feels that despite me being a more recent addition to her (their) heart, i am also very much involved in this situation and...

I absolutely agree..thats why even though its hard and ill miss them a LOT, i think this time apart is the right decision..thanks SeventhCrow ooh, you and my rational mind say the same things...i know i should, i just really dont WANT to. these are rare people, for sure they are flawed, and the...

Hi Tia! I think youre absolutely right about not leaving myself open to completely give M&H all control of the rules, i guess what i was trying to say was that i will be comfortable moving at a pace as slow as they need, and will respect their boundaries (so long as mine are also respected:)) i...

some time away..continued Dear M, dear H Im not happy about it, and i wish things were very different, but i think we need to take a break from seeing each other. The way i see things, and please let me know if you feel differently, I think you need to seriously recommit yourselves to each...

Hi everyone, and thank you for providing me with an open space to share in. heres my OP http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=777 and now a bit of follow up (sorry for the repetition fidelia, i just realized it was probably pretty unfair to rely only on you for advice and feedback...

Hi Fidelia, thanks so much for your kind words. I guess its my special little brand of narcissism that makes me like to think everything is my fault, and i thank you for reminding me to keep perspective...unfortunately M doesnt really see it this way, and im not sure if our relationship may have...

I'll preface this by saying I'm (relatively:)) young and foolish, and didn't read the books, or really search the websites, and was for a while blissfully ignorant... Also, prepare for an ear/eye full, because though my friends are accepting of my 'alternative' lifestyle, they don't seem...