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No, it's not a question of funds. Finances are not a problem for any of us. The problem is that when I'm not there, Harry goes into one! He gets very upset. He was one very pissed-off little boy when I picked him up the other day. Over the last two years, we have spent a lot of time together. I...

My wife and I just fell into poly when she met Alex, and fell in love with him. It was not something either of us had aspired to. I will not be looking for a poly relationship, and I doubt that lightning can strike twice. Who knows, though? I'm in a casual relationship with a girl at the...

Well, I had not seen them for a few weeks until I picked him up from school the other day. I would like a clean break, but I accept that Harry makes that impossible, so we will make the best of it. I have told my wife that I want a divorce, and I have spoken to a lawyer about it. It was very...

I guess I have settled for things along the way, but I have had the most amazing time, so I think it would be a bit rich for me to complain too loudly. Also, my wife sees things differently than I do, although certain things she cannot contest. Alex is the boy's dad, and his name is on the...

I have accepted that we are through now. It does not make it easier, though. 15 years is a long time. However, as upset as I am, I am also relieved. If I'm honest, I would like a clean break. I would prefer not to see her, as I believe that seeing each other will make things harder for us both...

The affair is long forgotten. It is not an issue between the three of us, and has not been for a long time. It's great that your arrangement works for you. I'm sure it could for us also. It is what I want. They do not, though. I've talked over and over it with her. I love her. I love that kid...

I really appreciate that sentiment, NYCindie. That's what my wife says. I'm just as much of a father to Harry as Alex is, and I'll be the same to their next child. To be frank, though, it's just not true, and she knows it. I am not his dad. Alex is. Alex is Daddy, and I'm Ethan. I'm not his...

We have been together for 15 years, married for 12, and we have been open for six. I think that we have done really well for the most part. I do love her, so my ideal relationship is what I've had. This baby thing was thrown a real spanner into the works though, and has made me realise that you...

Galagirl, what my wife and I have is more than compassionate friendly love, although at times I have questioned that. We were still being intimate with each other before I left, although Alex has been the dominant sexual partner for some time. I believe that she does love me though. Why else...

I am 36 now, we have been together for 15 years, and married for twelve, and even when I try, I cannot see a future for us. It gets me down. When I think of a fresh start somewhere new, without her, I feel like a weight will be lifted from my shoulders, and I get a huge sense of relief. At the...

The hardest part of this for me is that my wife has recently told me that she now intends to have another child, and that THEY have decided that it would be better for Alex to be the father again. They have told me that THEY have been agonising over this for months, but THEY have now made the...

When I was at my lowest ebb, she made a huge effort to reconnect with me and drew me closer to her, and slowly, we did. It was good again, but not the same, and it never really has been. I started to build a strong bond with Harry. She went back to work, and because I am my own boss, I was...

They say a child brings a couple closer together. In their case, that was very much true. To see the three of them together was very hard for me. I was very unhappy, but I did not show it. I did not want to spoil their happiness, so I just made myself as absent as I could. I was absent from our...

She said that the pregnancy was not planned, and she could not be sure who the father was. Sometimes you just get a strong feeling about something, and I believed it was mine. I hoped that it was. I wanted it so bad that I convinced myself that I was his dad, even when Harry was born. I really...

@galagirl. Thanks for your post. My thread does not make sense at the moment. I have posted more, but it has to be viewed by a mod before it can be posted! Maybe this is because I'm a new member? When my next post appears, I'll get the rest off of my chest. Thanks

It did work, though. It gave our marriage a boost. She continued to see more and more of Alex, and I had my own thing as well. It was good, no doubt about it! The difference between my thing and hers was that mine was just sexual. What she had with Alex may have been born out of lust, but it...

I knew something was up. She became distant and irritable towards me, and would get annoyed when I showed her affection, but then feel guilty and go overboard in trying to make it up to me. After things came to a head, she told me that she thought that our relationship had gone stale, and that...

Hi, I'm a new member, but long-term lurker of this forum, and I really wanted to run something past you all in the hope that you could give me your opinions, advice, or criticisms. And also for me to just get things off of my chest a little. My wife & I met each other when we were 21, fell in...