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Medications/illnesses make people WACKO! Yes...I turned into a crazy person and so did my partner when I got sick. Likely we were both in shock! I find it to be enlightening, if not somewhat sad and amusing at the same time. We are not out of the woods in terms of my health but things have...

I'm sure that it would be different if he had a long-term relationship with someone. I assume that she would know what was going on in his life and would be able to be supportive in ways that a new coffee date person can't be. When I had a breast cancer scare a few years back it was helpful to...

Just my two cents I love spending all my time with my partner. Even if we are set to separate tasks (say, he's working in the yard and I'm cooking dinner) the energy of his presence is comforting to me. Some call it co-dependent. Maybe it is. We both feel the same way, so it works for us...

Starting to calm down Clarity in communication is key. I am not used to being so 'all over the map'. I have just had to tell him that my needs might vary with the breeze and that I can no longer predict what they will be. How unfair to him! It is what it is right now. I am bogged down with...

@SNeacail - How could I trust him when i was in the hospital, unable to walk with a brand spanking new diagnosis and he was still texting girls? Then to come home to yet another new girl? You're right, I was telling him that I no longer trusted/trust him to be able to be there for me. I no...

@Magdlyn - thank you so much for your post =) Your gf sounds amazing :) Overcoming obstacles can either build character or drag you down, in my opinion, and it sounds like she has developed amazing character! I am always one to look for the 'life lesson' opportunities in any...

I did talk to him some more. I'm not sure that I am happy with it but I agreed that I could likely handle him chatting with people right now. I hate putting limitations on things...it's not my style. I just want to be able to put everything out of my head right now and focus on recovering...I...

Thanks for your posts. It has given me a lot to think about. I'm curious about the comment about depression. I don't feel that I am depressed; maybe sad. I usually view depession as a persistent state that has no real cause and that lasts for some time. By that definition I am not depressed I...

This whole thing is changing the way that I am able to think about poly as well. i was so confident, secure, and happy. Now i can't get the thought out of my head that he would be better off with someone else. i can't help but feel that I will never be able to meet his needs in the way that gave...

I can't tell him that I can't handle him dating.... i would rather leave than ask that. i don't know why. I think I'm afraid if I tell him to stop and then later I am OK with things again I will feel like it was not necessary to ask him to stop. It seems like a better option to leave, get my...

I am PickMoreDaisies. You can call me Daisy...or whatever you like. I don't normally post very much but I do lurk a whole lot. I'm going to start this 'life story' thread because things have gone off the deep end for me in many ways and I imagine that it will take a long time to get it back on...

how many is too many I think that I posted a question about this topic. Good memory RedPepper =) Back when I was in the throws of endless possibilities!! LOL Really for us, me having a secondary and my SO having a secondary as well seems like it would eat up just about all of our time! I...

I thought I would chime in...just in case someone was doing a survey lol I'm an INTJ. I don't know if that means anything at all in relation to poly...but I think that it pretty accurately describes me from what I've read. Ohh And I'm Leo with Leo rising...although I wouldn't think so at...

Thanks for the comments =) It's not that I want to tell him what to do, I guess I had hoped to give him some space without having to deal with jealousy or other emotional issues that come up with my dating. I guess hoping that he would feel more free to pursue what he wanted. I feel guilty I...

Probably yes, I would like him to have his own "distraction" prior to me dating again. He gets to feeling like he will never find someone or that we began this poly part of our relationship and I'm the only one actually being poly. I love him but isn't that just like a great big pity party?? He...

my experience For me: 1st marriage - "go ahead get a girlfriend....I'll get a boyfriend too...I don't care, do whatever makes you happy" 2nd marriage - "I love you so much and feel so secure in our relationship, I totally trust you and would love to see you explore other relationships" 1st...

I've been pretty patient, supportive, encouraging and even help write his pof/okcupid profiles. He has girls interested in him but he seems unwilling to take further steps to actually meet up with people. I have an on/off relationship with a mono guy. When we are 'on' again my husband completely...

Thanks for that reply Sneacail =) Maybe that's all I need to do....just BE for awhile....

I'm definately bi and absolutely a female....not really into people who aren't one gender or the other but find both sexes equally attractive. Common-law with my guy for 8 years. Just to put in my two cents =)

It's amazing to me that I always find exactly what I am looking for on this forum. Lately I have been feeling that it is not worth it. I hear people talk about how their relationships have grown from being poly....I already had an amazing relationship and we had/have amazing communication. I...