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I would agree with most of those statements, although I really don't know of any way to change it other than education about the ills it can cause (lots of sexual dysfunction in young males who become addicted to it or cannot enjoy sex because it isn't the same as the porn) and by generally...

I don't think at their core that porn and prostitution are problematic or exploitative, but the way the laws and industries work at the moment have generally resulted in exploitation and some unhealthy standards. Why would you want us to state our views on the matter, though, while being...

Hello All, Not sure what I'm really looking for here, as I don't know that there is any advice that will really help the situation, but I wanted a place to talk about this away from my husband (R) who is dealing with a lot of stress over the whole situation and whom I don't want to burden with...

It's good that you compliment each other so well. Perhaps it would help your confidence to try and learn to do some of the things she is good at? It's not a fun place to be in to feel like you would be helpless without her assistance in certain arenas. Maybe flexing metaphorical "muscles" you...

As a thought experiment, what would you do if you did lose her?

For me, the only real way to deal with the fear of loss it to recognize the reality of the situation. The reality is, you could always lose your wife. You can lose her if you are poly, you can lose her if you are mono. People can change in ways that make them incompatible with current...

I am open to doing an interview. PM me if you are interested.

I just wanted to say LR, that I haven't been contributing much, but I want to commend you on your patience with this. Utter BS.

I've actually noticed recently that I get quite a few people asking me what poly is and wanting to know more about it. It is pretty encouraging for the most part. :-)

I don't think it sounds unreasonable at all and many poly couples have similar boundaries. If meeting her potentials before she is to venture past a certain point is a boundary for you, and she needs to respect that in order for you to feel comfortable with her having outside relationships. If...

There are some mono/poly combinations that work. The key is that sometimes a person can be monogamous and not necessarily need their partner to be. They may be open to their partner being polyamorous/polysexual, but just aren't particularly interested in finding others themselves. It is...

1-2 years for me.

Mcchsmgro Hahaha I had to try it.

I'm not too worried about others' perceptions, but it does get obnoxious to hear the same kind of thing over and over again in a very disapproving tone of voice. It is basically them gathering fodder to be able to say "I told you so" later if it doesn't work out. A very obnoxious...

You are always allowed to ask questions. Your husband should be able to communicate to you what he is comfortable sharing and what he isn't, and hopefully the two of you can agree on a reasonable level of information sharing. Same for details. If it makes you feel better to know, then make...

My boyfriend's mom reacted somewhat like this. She basically said she grew up in the '60s and knew what free love was. But then she also said that it would never last and that it would only be a matter of time before I "picked" one of them. Oh well, I guess it could have been worse.

I think as far as anthropologists can figure, it actually goes back to the Agrarian society where ownership and property because important concepts and thus one had to know one's kids were one's own if one is going to pass one's property along to them.

I can't stop laughing.

I'm pretty sure it isn't a personality disorder. I've dealt with a few people diagnosed with them and they tend to draw people into them and be human wrecking balls. D isn't like that, he just elicits facepalm reactions most of the time. Honestly, once I started looking around for adult...

Waves are starting to calm down I think. Ripples will persist for a while I am sure, but I think both of us are getting a lot more balanced. We have started up a habit of still having open and honest conversations about it whenever one of us is feeling upset. He seems to have really gotten...