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I am also curious to know more about this statement.

I think finally wrapped things mostly up with Regulator. All that is left to do is the paperwork. I'm mostly moved out, and anything that is left isn't too important. He had told me that if we ever broke up I could keep our male cat and he could keep the female cat. I left the cat until last...

Congrats on healthy new grandbaby! Hope that the vacation rejuvenates you in all the ways you need.

Oh man, asking if you're using condoms seems like a HUGE overstepping of his bounds. Like, if you aren't having sex, he doesn't need to know what you're doing in that department. It doesn't impact him anymore.

My STBX husband is much the same way. He insisted for a long time during our breakup that he would continue to be poly, but some of his more recent actions might suggest otherwise. I do remember him telling me that he would be open to a poly relationship but it wouldn't be absolutely necessary...

*HUGS* I've had that "compromise" word thrown at me a lot since I started setting my own boundaries and living with autonomy. "Selfish" is another one I've heard a lot. There's no logic to it when someone wants what they wants and stops seeing their partner as a separate person from...

Feeling really weird about people and connecting to others lately. Feeling very lonely, but then terrified at the prospect of feeling close and comfortable with someone. Normally, my sex drive is fairly high, but it has completely disappeared of late. It sometimes comes back when I'm alone...

What is it you want to do? What are the possible consequences you are worried about if you take that course?

Some current backstory to kick off this blog, I'm sure much more will come out as I write and relate current events to things in my past. This will probably read much more like a personal growth journal at this point in my life than it will a relationship journal, but who knows? I am at a...

I know your time is very limited and you are very busy, but exercise and meditation have done wonders for me whenever I start to get really frustrated and angry. Learning to forgive myself for my own mistakes was a long road, and one that I couldn't approach like I had every other, by...

Still keeping you in my thoughts LR. I finally got another part time job to supplement my first which I will be starting next Saturday, and I just signed my first ever lease all by myself this week and moved out of my STBX husband's apartment. Still trying to process, everything seems to have...

I can also strongly relate to that feeling of people never quite getting it, always wanting to make a claim, and not realizing that by making that claim they'd be destroying everything it is they love about me in the first place. My STBX husband sounds so incredibly much like Maca. He loves...

It looks like this is going to be irreconcilable. We've been to counseling over the past few months. My sex drive deteriorated in the face of all this drama (as well as many complex issues in the past of R rejecting me over extended periods of time) and R started getting really pressuring and...

LR, I just wanted to say that I am keeping you in my thoughts as well. While my situation does not in any way match yours in intensity, I see so many parallels between the types of behavior between Maca and my husband and GG and an ex-boyfriend of mine. Your situation speaks to me so much and...

How long have you and M been together? When you got together, did he explain to you what he meant by open and what exactly he was looking for or what you could expect? Did the two of you set down any explicit agreements? It is always okay to have feelings. Right now, it sounds like it...

A meditative practice or some kind of therapy might be helpful in light of the panic attacks. I do agree that just distraction behaviors aren't going to help you to heal or move through the problem. Have you considered journaling or anything like that?

Awesome! If you use MeetUp at all, I highly suggest adding PolyColumbus to your groups. We do monthly social events as well as the monthly meetings and I know it fell through this summer, but I think next summer we are trying to organize an all-Ohio poly picnic.

Are you familiar with the Dayton Poly group or I think there's a SouthWestOhio group as well? A few people from Dayton in particular regularly participate in the Columbus community and I know through some of my friends that there's an active swinger community in Cinci, although I don't know...

That sign in your link is more typically associated with relationship anarchy. It's different from poly, but the two are associated quite a bit. The infinity heart is the one I see far more often.

I haven't read the entire blog, just for the past few weeks, but is there anything that you can ask Maca for in terms of taking some of the load off your shoulders with planning for the family and figuring some of these things out?