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The discrepancy here seems to be how you and he define "quality time." Don't you live together? Have you recently, say, watched a movie with him when he could have been out with others, or perhaps just hung around? There are other factors to consider. Is he working erratically? Does he...

I understand this sentiment, and I am very careful about avoiding projection of what I believe onto others (I wrote A LOT of people TEND to think . . . as opposed to "People think.") I suppose my meaning became lost in the text somewhere. :D These aren't attacks by any means, simply...

So earlier today I quoted a quote from one of you on the board, (I don't recall who, but it is in your signature :D ) and pasted it into my facebook status. Here is the quote: "Love withers under constraint; its very essence is liberty. It is compatible neither with envy, jealousy or fear...

San Diego indeed Yes, there seems to be not just a lack of polyamorous folks in San Diego; no one seems to have even HEARD of poly around here. What could be the reason for it? Who knows? San Diego seems to me to be, culturally speaking, around 5-7 years behind the rest of California, or...

Running. . . This is an interesting post to me, David. . . Is this whole thing a metaphor, or are you really running a 5k and asking for advice about it in the "New to Poly" section of a Polyamorous Forum website? My advice to you (about, literally, running) is to train on your own and...

Hi! Welcome aboard. I hope our input or feedback is helpful for you, even though I believe we're all learning, ourselves. So, I don't get it, what's sad about this introduction?

Issues. . . Hi, RP! I may be new here and having some issues myself, but maybe I can offer perspective. If I read correctly, then your major issues are: 1: Your own burgeoning jealousy 2: Her seemingly opportunistic approach to polyamory. 3(?): The fact that it sounds like the two of you...

Hey, you! I'm offering you virtual friendship on FB. You can find me as Alexander Dial in San Diego, CA. My circus page, Otherwise Entertainment, may be easier to find, as some folks have claimed I've been difficult to locate. . .

New developments RedPepper- I agree. I'm moving along nice and slowly for her. I didn't plan on leaping into a diamond situation immediately and just telling her to deal with it as though she's got years of poly living under her belt. :) I *HAVE* arranged my first official date outside of...

I totally agree with this sentiment. Thanks, all for your help with my perspective! I'll keep you posted.

Thanks, everyone. I've really taken the applicable stuff to heart, and I'm going to proceed with care. I'll be around. Thanks for all the time you've spent helping me. What a great community you have here!

Great input Thank you all so much for your advice and perspectives. To clarify: We have been seeing each other for a little longer than a year, during which I have been painstakingly monogamous. I'll try to address it all in one go. Firstly, none of your feedback struck me as harsh or...

Well, my last thread had to do with me accepting my new lifestyle and telling my current GF, who was in a mono relationship with me, that I required the freedom to love as I need to love. Well, we talked a lot more last night, and she seems to want to enter this poly situation with me. Bear...

Welcome! I just joined the board today, too. Welcome! (It feels good to be part of a welcoming community, even if I'm a noob) I'm in a relationship that's ending because of our differing views on polyamory (she wants monogamy, I'm pretty sure that I can't be happy that way) so I'm just...

@ gs Thank you for the reception, GS. I think you're absolutely right about clear communication, since it's been my experience that when people are left with ANY "wiggle room" for interpretation, they tend to reach whatever conclusions they like, regardless of the intended message. I...

Hi, I'm new to this site, but I've been looking for a place to express myself frankly and without worrying about backlash from the morally superior or those who can't think outside their own situations. I have long, long known about polyamory and it's fundamental theory and practice, but I've...