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  1. Rowan

    I am lonely and can't make opposite sex friends whatsoever

    I'm not sure I'm going to be much help. My hubby jas ran into a lot of women that say they wish to be friends, and theybare as long as he's paying. Even the one he helped through her divorce spent months acting like a friend then dumped him. My best advice is the one I give him. Go out, talk...
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    Gaming and Gamers

    I've always been a person who avoided the gaming stuff. In high school, the Atari, Commodore 64 and other such devices were just out on the market and all the guys seemed to be drawn to them. Some girls, yes ... but mostly the guys were addicted to the point of madness by these gaming...
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    DADT just ain't working for me....

    MzWiz, I believe I can understand your issue. I too am a woman who needs to feel attractive to her husband. My husband (while young and healthy with no ED issues at all) has never had a driving sex drive. For years, my husband has confused my need for intimacy for sex. Don't get me wrong...
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    update on how often to communicate

    You know, the decision is ultimately yours to make and all I can offer is advice that will definitely have my priorities set in it ... so please take this with a grain of salt. My initial reaction was that if it had been myself in your shoes; he'd no longer be in my life. While it is difficult...
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    Rowan's story

    Hi all, sorry it's been so long. Been a tad bit crazy in my life. Some good, some bad; overall ... just life. My husband feels like this will not work. He's mentioned twice now that he wants to close our marriage and just be with each other. This isn't healthy because my husband will not...
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    I have a problem...

    Im not hearing the one important thing that *I* would need to hear. Ill explain with an example. My hubby went out to the bar to meet a friend (female) knowing there was a hookup chance. He told me he'd be home no later than 11:30. At 1, I texted him, asking if he was in the ditch or the...
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    just saying hello

    Welcome from Iowa :)
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    Just a quickie..

    My hubby and I are still new to this, but as we live together we have some rules specific to that. We know where each other is and as a back up we have GPS apps on our cell phones( amazingly its paid off in non-poly ways, like when my car broke down). We are open about who we are with and there...
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    Mono Wife is struggling - how to help?

    I'm not sure I can offer much help. My "jealousy" tends to spikeover the day to day stuff, not sex. Sex has never made me feel threatened. But knowing that my husband is carving out time to console someone, plan fun activities .. day to day style things as examples -- those build relationships...
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    Word Association Game!

    Child
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    Greetings & Guidance Appreciated

    Welcome to the forum. I'm new here to. Ii struggled for years with sharing my hubby, and finally agreed because I could say I trusted him all I wanted, but if there was never a reason to exercise that trust, it was just talk. That was my decision, and I know you will make yours based on your...
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    Rowan's story

    Jade - I'll be the first to admit that I don't always make the wisest decisions. Thankfully, my hubby understands me and allows me to be honest woth him even when I make a bad judgement. :-) I will admit that we played with fire. My disappointment was in D's assurance that we would never cross...
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    The "How Are You Doing" Thread (redux)

    Today, I am great! While not everything in my life is worry free right now, I've got all my "ducks in a row" and am currently on everyone's "good" list. Except for one co-worker, but I'm never on her good list, so who cares. Personal life is going well and while I miss having all the friends...
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    What are you listening to now?

    Nightwish!! For some reason Celtic Woman just came up on the playlist .... that was a shocker. Symphonic Metal to Bagpipes .... and I can't stop laughing about it either!
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    Rowan's story

    Well, I''m guessing you will need a little back story on me to truly understand anything I post here. =) Without posting anything that will "trigger" someone, my childhood was immersed with molestestion by each of my mother's husbands. From about age 4 until I moved out at 18. While it took...
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    really reluctant

    Hi Brandon, I feel a bit odd welcoming you since I'm also so new, but "welcome". I tend to only get on this site at home, where I don't have to worry about who's watching over my shoulder, but I'd like to offer my exceptional listening ears and my handy-dandy-drip-dry shoulder should you ever...
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    Poly quiz, just for fun

    1) Polyamory: The ability to openly love more than one person in such a way as to validate your existing loving relationships. (ie - honest and with dignity) 2) I'm a hard working step mom and wife who enjoys many activities. I tend to gravitate to men as friends (with or without benefits)...
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    Witchcraft

    Witchcraft/Magic: I believe and practice Wicca every day. Does that mean i can actually influence others by my will. No. Does it mean i can conjure money out of nothing, No. To me, my faith is a way to commune with nature (a natural, necessary stress release for me), a way to feel more in...
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    Hello from Corn Country!

    Thank you for the warm welcome! The best thing I need right now is the ability to speak openly. Both hubby and my family are very strictly religious, so discretion is the key. Also for me, while i do have some poly friends in ny life, i dont see eye to eye with their style of poly. So, mostly...
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    Hello from Corn Country!

    Hi, you can call me Rowan. My husband has been wanting an open marriage for awhile now and I've recently allowed it. While I've become more comfortable with him and this whole situation, I've stumbled into some areas of this that I would love to have advice on. I've read this forum as a guest...
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