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Have you considered a no-phone agreement? I.e. Just for the bedroom, or just for reconnecting time when you get home after work. Then physically putting the phone in another room for a while so that the distraction can't even come up. Because it ***is*** addictive - even without the NRE aspect...

Oh! I was so rooting for your date to go swimmingly and I am surprised it did not. I am of course also a bit curious of what the extreme thing he said - me also being quite a radical leftie - that was such a big no-go. :o

It's nice of you to bow out and be the more mature one here. I do wonder, as a close follower of your blog, why Rider continues to keep up with her shenanigans. I think that if my partner participated in a relationship like that I would start questioning his integrity and possibly lose interest...

opalescent has some excellent advice.

Oh no :( hope things will get better before Friday. Can you make Guy stay somewhere else but the hotel room?

Ugh, that sounds like a terribly stressful weekend. I can't believe this woman - she definitely didn't act ethical nor like a friend would. And then the H stress on top of it. Glad J was there for support. Sending hugs.

That sounds really wonderful :) Glad things are working out with the new living arrangements. Curious, do you each have your own bedroom or do you share?

"Wow, youve lost your marbles." - ~"No, I've just lost my monogamy." That made me giggle. Awesome reply! Sorry to hear your sister is being such a PITA. I think you're dealing with it very well.

Wow... just wow. You may not have intended to come across this way but your post sounds incredibly condescending, and really as if you hardly care about OP at all - or at least as if you are not interested in a relationship with her at all.

A couple of weeks ago I met Joel. We found we clicked really well, told each other lots of personal information and stories, stayed up late nights chatting over the internet or in person. Our interactions were friendly and platonic. Lately I have found myself more sexually attracted to him...

It sounds like she's made it pretty clear she is not interested in anything but friendship with you at this point. I suggest you respect that. Second-guessing her motivations or thoughts probably won't get you anywhere.

I like this article: Why Monogamy isn't the Problem. I think there is a lot to criticize about this article, but it does sort of fit your description, and maybe you'll get something out of it: Angry for a reason: Polyamory and Activism. I'll be interested in any more articles too.

I am looking for reading material to help a poly person coming to terms with being in a closed monogamous relationship. There are reasons for which it is better for my partner and i to be closed for the foreseeable future. But.. yeah. it'd be nice to read some material from other polys on how...

True words as always. Thank you; Marcus <3

That's wonderful news. :D Do consider continuing to update us! (though that maybe would then be in the blog section).

My partner has a (first) date tomorrow :D I'm both excited for them and excited that I feel compersion not jealousy :D /Wheeee

I don't really think anything is a biological man vs. woman issue.

Thanks BG for saying that. That is sort of what I was wondering about the whole time while reading this also. Even more so, I thought the child in question was a teenager not a 5-year-old.

I agree. I am committed to my friends, definitely. It's just that that is a less clearly defined arrangement (with most of them anyway). @IP : I enjoyed reading your thoughts about commitment. They were very spot-on : I definitely agree with what you had the say. I can never give a life-long...

That is the impression I also got. "Intellectually lazy" - exactly. No explanation, just the 'lazy' statement: sexual non-monogamy is not commitment. When I ask why, or blink in confusion? It just is. Again, the conclusion of this is to simply ask them to clarify. Be less lazy.