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Hi all. Thank you for all the answers :) Was great to see everyone's input. I will comment on some replies. GalaGirl - I agree it's important to not get hung up on the 'why' but move on to the 'how change it'. Hm. I really like the idea of just asking them what they understand as...

This is inspired by a discussion I frequently lead with monogamous-minded people. The conversation normally goes something like this: Me: I am in a non-monogamous relationship. Mono: Oh, okay. So you are seeing this person casually. Me: No, it is not 'casual'. The fact that we sleep with...

Hah! Edited my post to make it clearer but meanwhile nycindie also said everything I wanted to say. :)

In terms of gender roles, you may see men as a "threat" and women as "harmless" because society has taught you that men are aggressive and strong - the aggressor and seducer, and competition for "the women" is part of that. In terms of sexual orientation - part of the traditional view on how...

I like to think of it as a positive thing. Having the positive example of how you feel towards female partners can be a goal state to aspire towards. It shows to you how you are capable of feeling joy and compersion for her. Why? Culture & socialisation. Patriarchy.

Helo, don't the last two contradict each other? Wouldn't you only sleep separately if you were still mid-argument?

Hyperskeptic, I just wanted to chip in that I found your thoughts on relationships, especially friendship versus romance, very interesting. I have found myself thinking on similar terms as you have - the boundaries between 'romantic' and 'inter-personal but non-sexual' friendship are often...

Also, the "weirdos" (please note the quotation marks) the kinksters and queers and members of certain subcultures, may simply be exposed to the concept of polyamory earlier than those who are otherwise part of more heteronormative, "normal" (again quotation marks) social circles; thus finding...

:D So much love to all the things you listed. Love being geeky and queer and proud and hairy.

hello all, first of all i want to say i'm happy to have found this forum and have been super enthusiastic about reading up on polyamory info, especially the life stories & blogs section has been absolutely fascinating! btw, i'm a queer cis-female in my twenties. hi *waves this isn't...

Yay! Happy for you =) I recently had a similar experience as i was growing closer and closer with someone ... all the while adamently avoiding the bf/gf terminology. When we paused to say, - well - we -are- in a sort of relationship even if we choose not to call it that; and both of us are...

I know, I'd associated "MEEP" with a rather negative complaints-type sound, too :D But, yay, happy for you! :)

this really resonated with me. I do this too, sometimes. why do we feel the need to sabotage ourselves? :confused:

love your way of writing and seeing situations, I think we're quite similar in some ways. Great to hear all the good news (woah, babies and marriage!) :)

Hahaha, wonderful :D

Good to hear from you again, and sorry about difficulties this summer. Hopefully things will work themselves out.