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Thank you all for replying, but you have misunderstood a very important thing. These two rules are not mine. I did not come out with these and he did not have to agree on them. We BOTH discussed them and some of these rules are more his than mine, especially the "no strangers" one. So the...

Yes, those are the two main things I asked him before he really started hooking up with someone. He totally agreed and said that if these are the main rules then he is happy and all is good. But he has not done those things. It makes me feel bad because indeed he suggested that maybe he can...

Hello all! So, from the title I assume you all think that I am that monogamous girlfriend who is super against letting his boyfriend explore polyamory. Right? Well this is actually not it. There is a different kind of problem, kind of a weird one in my opinion. Here we go... I believe I am...

Thank you all for your answers. All of them were really helpful, and I'm glad I got so many. Special thanks to you, RainyGrlJenny. It was really interesting to read someone's opinion who has experienced something like that themselves. I am going to talk to my BF today and try to assure him...

This is an exaggeration. I have never said "He can't have any conditions," all I stated was what I need, will actually keep on needing when he turns our relationship into a polyamorous one. I need a lot from him in order to have a loving lasting relationship. This obviously goes the other way...

I actually do not think there is some kind of a sexual fetish going on here. :p Compersion, however, maybe yes. We have talked a lot about polyamory and this has actually never come up. Plus, if he is going to have several other partners, he can feel compersion with them. I do not really think...

Well, the plan is actually very simple. Basically, I would like him to stay the same when it comes to our relationship. His other relationships would mostly be his business, but I would not like his polyamorous life to change him so much that it would leave me miserable. When it comes to love...

Hi! So my boyfriend and I have been together for over 2 years. Our relationship at the moment is pretty much monogamous, except for the fact that we know he is actually a polyamorous person. I happen to be mono for sure, though. Nevertheless, we have agreed that if he continues to love me as...

What is wrong with A leaving is that this was supposed to be A and B's time together, but yeah, you all are probably right. I guess people wouldn't be such jerks to leave just because someone didn't make them a cake. It is all probably rooted in a fear of abandonment, not very logical, but...

I guess this is the right place where to talk about other things besides polyamory. If this is the case, then I am going to add my (or to be exact my boyfriend's problem here). My boyfriend seems to have a really bad problem with eating. All this started years ago, when he moved out and went to...

Thank you SO much, Galagirl. The way you took my post together will help me tremendously! It will be of much use! Well, first of all, my boyfriend is definitely not a flirt. It is just a fear of mine that maybe polyamory will change him into one. And yes, I would mind that, at least if he were...

I really hope that no one minds, but as this thread is about fears, I would like to ask about a fear that has not been touched upon here yet, but maybe others have/have had it as well, or maybe someone could help me get over it. My fear is that in a poly relationship everyone feels like they're...

Thank you everyone for your posts. I must say that I maybe left a bit of a wrong impression of myself. That is, I do not yell like a madman on a daily basis without no reason. It only happened during really big, scary and important fights. I am in no way proud of it and have done my best lately...

Hello! I am new here, as you can probably guess. The reason I am here is because I have been together with my dear boyfriend for 2 years, and for the latest part of it he has insisted on polyamory. For the past week, however, this has turned ugly. Sad, heart-breaking and ugly. :( When we got...