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  1. Magdlyn

    Navigating a Triad Relationship

    Generally, triads are most successful (other than a casual short-term sex thing) if you start dating someone, one individual, first, and then, eventually, something starts to happen with their partner, or with a third unrelated person. This seems to be how it happened with your first triad. If...
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    The end is the beginning is the end

    Can Nettle and Ghost be left home alone at all? Some teens and preteens are fine with that. Some can even be left overnight. Mine were good like, that, as the oldest of our three was very maternal and sensible and great with her siblings. They weren't so happy to be left overnight at first...
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    Poly Or Not?

    I've found that my partner Pixi is great to unload on. We're both girls, we're both wicked compassionate and emotionally secure and adept. When either of us has had issues with other partners, we can use each other for support. We actually enjoy analyzing the issues. We've both had lots of...
  4. Magdlyn

    Introduction

    WTF! Fuck society! haha! You'll fit right in.
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    The end is the beginning is the end

    You must be feeling envious that Storm and Sublunar are looking for a city flat, which had been a little dream of your own, for your future with Storm! So, maybe Sublunar has again separated from his wife, and is off to go nesting with his gf, moving ahead! All is forgiven, the lies, the fake...
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    Poly Or Not?

    I've read many blogs of swingers and the huge consensus I read was that swinging is mostly couples-oriented. Sure, there may be some female unicorns... like you. (Traditionally, single men have been only grudgingly allowed in, to prevent hundreds of wankers standing around lol.) If you went to...
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    Monogam-ish/Sexually Open Relationship

    I'm on a highway to hell! Wheeeee! Good grief. This is a place to come to for advice. You may not agree with everything people offer. That's no reason to tell them they're on the way to hell. Good luck!
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    Question about being Secondary

    Actually, there is quite a lot of info for secondaries here: https://morethantwo.com/polyforsecondaries.html
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    new to poly but something has changed

    This is the correct way to address these kinds of issues. But you should also repeat his words back to him, as how you heard it, and allow him to correct you if you didn't catch his meaning. Vice versa, he should also reflect his understanding of your POV back to you. Everyone needs to feel...
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    Poly Or Not?

    Yes. So your qualification is that DAG said you weren't in a "poly relationship" at all! Not that you were "doing poly wrong." Gah. He was wrong! He seemed to think KTP is the only way to do poly, and if you want parallel poly, then you're not poly at all. In fact, we had a very annoying member...
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    Monogam-ish/Sexually Open Relationship

    Sure, it seems to be "done." I was just discussing your (plural) mistake and how doing it differently might have prevented the crash and burn. And like Broken Arrow said, it's important to learn from each relationship so you don't repeat the same mistakes. I can see he was a big risk for you...
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    Monogam-ish/Sexually Open Relationship

    Of course there's the financial aspect, but that's never a good reason to live with a virtual stranger with whom you are emotionally entangled. I think it was too much, too soon. My partner and I dated longish distance, 20 miles apart, for 2.5 years, before deciding to move in together. We'd...
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    Mono Couple becomes Poly Couple

    That's right. If you keep seeing him, you'll both probably have NRE for at least 6 months. You'll be seeing each other with rose-colored glasses. Just have fun, and stay connected with BlackDahlia too.
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    Mono Couple becomes Poly Couple

    Um, I think you just mentioned Jason a week ago? It's way too soon to start meeting the meta, having the Talk about the future, etc. I'd recommend just keeping it light and enjoying getting to know each other. Even if you really clicked, it's very early days. Resist the urge to rush, like a...
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    Anna Xx

    Oh, OK. Yes, I agree completely. Be that as it may, the ball is NOT in his court. The ball belongs to Anna. She can choose to take responsibility for her own life, and stop trying to get anywhere this beaten nearly dead horse on the creepy amusement park ride. Annabelle, I am being a bit "tough...
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    Monogam-ish/Sexually Open Relationship

    I think one problem is that you 2 went from living long distance to living together! A better idea, if he wanted to move to be nearer, would have been to live near each other, but apart, and start normal dating. It seems to me your partner wasn't really ready for full on living together. Maybe...
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    Anna Xx

    I edited your second paragraph Is that what you meant? I wasn't clear. Your scenario still leaves the choices up to the guy. It's Annabelle who should take control of her own life. She's leaving the control up to her bf, and he's leaving the control up to his wife! Someone's got to say, the...
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    The end is the beginning is the end

    Patrolman, would you like feedback on this blog?
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    Anna Xx

    You sound very passive. You sometimes seem to stand up for yourself, but then you back down. You continually leave things up to him, but then you think he is leaving things up to his wife. And yet, you don't want her to have control over your relationship with him. And round and round you go...
  20. Magdlyn

    You can start threads here, or write a blog in our Journal section. We're a friendly bunch of...

    You can start threads here, or write a blog in our Journal section. We're a friendly bunch of people, experienced in living polyamorously.
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