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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    This is interesting, and while it was a reply to icesong, I struggle. I am extremely special to her and I know the sexual acts, travel, etc are things that otherwise she only does with her husband. We have swapped the most intimate details of our life, and I know the other people she has met...
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    My friend and I did date - we are much, much, much better as friends. She is significantly older than me, but the lifestyle differences and her previous marriage leaves her not wanting anything I desire. I think the relationship is working a good amount of the time,and though it trips me up...
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    Hey everyone, Let me catch up here and sorry for quoting in one post. Wednesday night she invited me down to see her and meet her H. Him and I really clicked, and though there was a minor bump that was my fault (I got caught up with chatting the neighboring table at a bar we were at and kinda...
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    That is a problem I am facing, I am missing her and my physical needs being met over distance. Now that we are closer she wants it in person but can't, hence the going out. I can't fulfill that because it takes overnight logistics for me to travel and see her. It is nice she wants it that badly...
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    No I agree, but I do believe drunk minds speak sober hearts. And yes, I am just trying to gently nudge me back to how I felt when I get all wrapped up. But retraining a mind takes a long time as you know.
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    Well it has yet to be seen as I woke up pretty frustrated right now. I phoned a friend who is quite upset at my gf, butis aware of my dating situation. She is upset that my gf love-bombed me when I told my friend how I told my gf I felt our boundaries and timeline was cast aside, and I do...
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    Timelines; A bit of bragging, and a question.

    Hey everyone, I hope all is well, and thank you for the help everyone has. It is a bit of a rough time for me, personally and my gf and her husband reunited so it is a time of shifting resources. My gf met up with a ONS for a second time and as it was on the cusp of my boundary comfort, I am up...
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    Is this stance really necessary?

    I think your response Icesong is why I enjoy it here so much, we disagree on many things but your compassion and reasoning for yourself is valid and respected. I was a bit confused (I took a sleeping pill) by the A/B/C thing. If that was in reference to my reddit example her, her husband, an I...
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    Is this stance really necessary?

    I left reddit's community in disgust when I said that I was trying to find advice on feeling unfulfilled during the time of COVID and I was overtaxing my GF with her family and my needs. It is pretty much like that website above, strict RA or you're "controlling." I answered some questions they...
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    Leaving my partner over her husbands choices

    This is perpetuated by many monogamous guys who come to "hunt" too. They say anything to get in bed and leave behind a wreck so someone who is poly now has to deal with past trauma on top of normal courtship of someone else who is open and was lied too. It is part of that poly=easy sex...
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    PolyWog need advice with jealous primary

    Oh I meant in tongue-in-cheek as I was chatting constantly! You helped me through so much and I am ever appreciative!
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    PolyWog need advice with jealous primary

    When I started calling my gf instead of text fighting, our relationship went from slowly losing altitude to at minimum keeping level, if not repairing itself right in the moment sugarglider. Tone is lost over text, and hearing your SO cry, breathe, etc brings the human back into the...
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    Needing support

    One of the very few boundaries with my GF is that her and her husband reserved certain language for themselves. To understand, this was in place since they opened their relationship up as "swinger" style and me, the longterm BF was never planned. He is a little bit worried - but we are making...
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    Needing support

    Hey there, I am going to say some stuff and I will probably get some disagreement. I am worried as I have a date with a very attractive woman coming up and my gf (married) has said this quite often. However when I was supposed to play third party for sexual fun for a couple the other day my gf...
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    Hierarchical Polyamory Advice

    Hey E! So I don't mind hierarchy per se, I am in a bit of one now though it was not supposed to be. So here are some tips/things I wish I did differently. I am in a secondary role, my gf is married. I will be eventually looking for a primary. First, read the "Secondary bill of rights." I...
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    Back to being single / meeting new couples

    I just want to raise a point here which everyone knows, but runs a bit counter to some advice and I feel is being overlooked. I am in a very poly-friendly city. This really only means that I see ENM/poly-spectrum folks more often - the amount of single guys who are monogamous looking for "easy...
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    Any good apps/website for meet ups?

    I am in New England and feeld did nothing for me that was worthwhile, though I didn't put much effort into the profile. Others I know who use it however had much success though I presume any attractive woman will the way these apps tend to work.
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    Leaving my partner over her husbands choices

    Oh man, how many times I've explained this to my "gf" and her husband. It is one of the few things where I do not mind raising my voice via text out of frustration. "We just don't get it, we got 900 requests on an app. You're handsome and successful, just try." I just feel like standing there...
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    Looking for friends and support in the New Hampshire area

    I'm a bit further away than Gary but not too far. PM me if you'd like.
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    Feeling guilty when looking to expand..

    The awful part is is that I haven't. I wrote about feeling left out because many years ago I lost a LTR due to work while she was in graduate school. I then got a hefty promotion and then boom... the pandemic tested my work. So its been pretty lonely and hard in that regard when I see my gf's...
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