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    Leaeeving Toxic Marriage: Now questioning my poly nature. Help.

    *I understand there may be some harsh judgement here, but I'm truely desperate for any sort of solid advice and perspective here* A year into our marriage, my husband and I decided to become openly polyamorous. This decision came about after an incident where I had gone out of town to see old...
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    Poly/ Mono Relationship- Advice Thread

    This. Yes. This was probably one of the first issues that I brought up. I'm not asking him to change for me. Nor am I going to ask him to compromise his desires for me. If he wants a monogamous partner, it's not me. I can't give him that. And I don't need him resenting me down the line because...
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    Poly/ Mono Relationship- Advice Thread

    It definitely seems to be a bit of both. In our conversations since his "freak out", he has intentionally changed his language from "I am a true monogamous" to "I HAVE been a true monogamous". He pointed out last night that he feels his thinking slowly shifting. I definitely do believe that...
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    Poly/ Mono Relationship- Advice Thread

    I just started an intense relationship with an older monogamous man. He knew on meeting me that I was married and has met my husband and GF. However, he had a couple days this past week where hes really struggled against the monogamy in his brain. He had a bit of a breakdown on me that...
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    Toxicity in Polyamory

    I've been asking myself that for a while now. One big issue is that I, at least used to be, an easy target for gaslighting because of my past experiences and reasons for PTSD. So when I would Express issue with a screwed up thing, Kay knew how to talk me around Ex: "you're feeling this way...
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    Toxicity in Polyamory

    Thank you all for your support and comments. I actually am currently in therapy, only mostly for severe childhood abuse and trauma and my PTSD from that, this has, however, taken over a few of my sessions because I feel so...bewildered? Shes now spreading awful untrue rumors about me and...
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    Toxicity in Polyamory

    My husband and I were in a cross relationship with another "married" couple for nearly 3 years. I dated Justin, while Kenny dated Kay. Throughout the 3 years we knew them, Kay and I had a really hard time getting along. Something was off about her and I didnt trust it. I attempted to let it go...
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    Poly Lessons We've Learned

    If your partner demands that you work under different relationship restrictions than they do and not only justifies their special privileges, but holds it over your head, RUN.
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    Word Association Game!

    Dream
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    Word Association Game!

    Shutdown
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    Now that I actually have some down time before work this evening, I can go over a little bit that's been going on. I worked straight through the holiday's and made pretty decent money. 14 days straight will wear you out when you're also trying to move, but it was really worth it in the grand...
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    Well, guess my Ex blocked me after I blocked Ex-Meta. Mainly did it because she’s told me numerous times that we don’t have to be friends. Then when I cut it off, she kept in with her manipulation because she can’t stand not being the one in control and tried to appease to my peaceful side to...
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    As this chapter of my life closes, it's really hard for me to not spend a lot of time reflecting on the past 3 years. While I know Kenny and I have both learned and are learning several lessons from it all, I think only time can really drive the lessons home. In the mean time, we have both...
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    "You just want your cake and eat it too?"

    Saying it "just happened" kind of makes it sound like you're excusing the behavior. If you're being unfaithful it doesn't matter how it happened, there's still dishonesty there. Now, that being said, I have also cheated on my husband before we were married or poly. It took me about 3 days to...
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    Spousal Veto and Self-Harm

    Your partners mental health and wellbeing always comes first. I'm not one to veto a partner, but, as someone that loves them, I am one to try to objectively show them that the relationship is doing more harm than helping. Then, if they won't listen, you've gotta put you first. I recently had to...
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    My husband and I split from our poly family. I really want to talk about it. I really want to share my story so other poly people can hear it and learn from it, but I currently don't feel very safe and I'm trying to handle this as maturely as possible. But I know I'm hurting and I wanted to at...
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    Looking for posts about breakups due to metamour relations

    I would be willing to tell you what happened with my situation, if you're interested (any of you, really), but I would rather do it over PM, as I don't really feel safe posting my experience on here just yet. Just PM me if you're interested.
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    Looking for posts about breakups due to metamour relations

    I literally just went through this exact thing. And this week everything went up in smoke because of said dynamic.
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    I think he will help. Some people have said they don’t think that’s a good idea, butmy husband has a hard time understanding my anxiety though he says he does. He also invalidates my concerns for a deeper problem because of his own improvement without a diagnosis or medication. Hopefully his...
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    As the Tiger Sniffs the Rose...

    In the process of finding another therapist. I may start going to my husbands therapist as he's helped us a few times when we've needed to go in together so he therefore has a decent background and knowledge for me to work off of as well as a support of our poly lifestyle. I've had at least...
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