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    Roadblock

    Apologies for not knowing the protocol, thank you for the adjustments. Thank you also for your thoughts and comments. The outcome is still unfolding.
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    Roadblock

    ‘The road goes on forever and the party never ends...’ It’s 5 am and I’m a little punchy... been up since 4 trying to figure this one out so I thought I’d reach out to old friends. Can someone shed some insight so I can get some sleep... Yet another teary discussion last night with my...
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    Your thoughts on condom boundary.

    Inyourendo~ Lily (L) *specifically requested internal skin to skin contact be between she and I only. * If you meant using the 'withdraw before you cum' practice thats another thing. *That option isn't on the table due to the little swimmers that jump the gun before the big bang.. ****That is...
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    Your thoughts on condom boundary.

    Inyourendo, *I truly believe I am the only person, other than each other that T&J have sex with so I feel 'safe' regarding Std's. * I've had a few casual relationships over the last few years and always used condomswith these relationships *when having sex with them. Not quite sure what you...
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    Your thoughts on condom boundary.

    Question: *Is 'required' condom usage a reasonable request/boundary for oso's by ones primary? Background : My primary girlfriend, 'L' (50) and I (52) have known each other for 3 years *are in a long distance *relationship (she lives in Texas and I live in Florida). *We see each other about...
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    I would love a steady poly thing w 2 men who are friends...does this exist?

    I've been seeing a married mf couple for 10 years, I'm male. When all three of us interact equally we call it "we3". When I interact with J (female) alone we refer to each other as 'lovers'. J's husband, T, refers to me as 'his wife's lover' and she as 'your lover'. T and I together refer to...
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    Double standard, revisited...

    Hi Gala Girl* Im working off an iPhone and I don't think I can highlight specific sentences/questions to answer...Hopefully your quoted questions followed by my attempts to answer will make sense. I'll try to clarify: "Does that mean that in your polyship arrangements, there is the standard of...
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    Double standard, revisited...

    Does anybody else have difficulty with double standards? Being the way I am...I don't understand why I have trouble feeling comfortable/totally accepting if my significant others are the same way I am... I think I'm having hypothetical double standard issues. Im trying to place myself in my...
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    On getting a kick out of couples

    "So, I'm just curious, does anyone else relate to this at all? Any thoughts about individual people engaging with both halves of a couple, beyond the usual "We want a gf who'll love us both equally and be exclusive with us and move in right away" versus "Ugh, please go away unicorn hunters, GO...
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    sexual dysfunction with new partners

    Hey Schismist, If these four experiences were 'first dates'/ solely implied sexual encounters, perhaps you simply need to spend some time getting to know your new friends, or maybe start with one and get to know her. Opening your relationship goes against our societies and cultural dictations...
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    Want more than a Swinger but not sure I'm poly either...

    Hi MsFickle, I wonder the same thing... I agree with the folks here that say every relationship is different. I think it's possible to have more emotional involvement than swinging seems to offer ( I've heard the term 'sport fucking' here before) but not as involved as a full life partnership...
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    Format question

    I posted some stuff months ago and was 'repremanded' for 'using' all those damn asterichs (*)... allbeit inadvertently. I get bounced off a lot as my service is sketchy... If I post again I'll appologize ahead of time for the ****'s, cuz it's way to frustrating to have my significantly self...
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    Format question

    Help?... This is the problem I was talking about. I did not type on any asterich (*) in the following paragraph but they appear when I view print preview. I draft, then cut and paste from the notepad feature on my iPhone. How can I prevent the asterichs from appearing. It seems if I type...
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    Format question

    When I preview (or post) a thread I wrote, each sentance starts and ends with an asteric. HOW DO I STOP THIS. I'm using an iPhone 3G... I know, it's an antique... Although it didn't happen here..
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    How can I be "less"?

    Hi O, I didn't mean to come across as judgemental as to pure Poly/love vs. Swinging or sport fucking (that last term sounded kind of derogitory to even me! :0 ). People like/want/need different things that's all. It just seems to me that in some posts/threads "swinging" has been specificly...
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    How can I be "less"?

    Awareness Sagency wrote: "As such, first I would figure out whether you are poly or swing. Then I'd work on finding someone who appreciates you also also shares your core image for your relationship. M can be a loved partner during this time and may continue as such, but it doesn't seem like...
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    How can I be "less"?

    Thanks AnotherConfused wrote: "Can you love your girlfriend as a friend (with or without the extras) and seek someone else for your full time partner?" My reply: Thanks AC, Your friends story does seem like mine... I'm sorry for their pain for I know exactly how it feels. I think I am...
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    How can I be "less"?

    Thank you Wow... I don't have time right now to be specific, but thank you all for trying to help me. I am truly touched that you have taken the time to offer your thoughts. M can simply let her conundrums go with a smile it seems. Mine drive me nuts... but I usually figure them out and come...
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    How can I be "less"?

    NYC wrote: "Wouldn't being in contact with her on the days you're not physically together take care of that?" My response - Nope, not for me. I understand what you are saying I think. I understand the concept but I am most happy and desire everyday physical ie. live in contact. You brought...
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    How can I be "less"?

    Mohegan, Thanks for standing up for those of us "full-timers". Your thoughts are helpfull. IG
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