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  1. Reverie

    Desire & the End of NRE

    Adapted from my blog post: An ongoing issue throughout my adult and sexual life is this: I have no idea how to sustain sexual desire for a person past NRE. I warn each maybe-longterm partner of this early on, but each partner thinks that their cock will be the magic bullet that will kill the...
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    Suggestions for wording during a difficult conversation?

    Hi all, I'm looking for help/suggestions for effective, non-threatening wording to try to raise some issues with my husband around some recent communication missteps and a newly developing controlling behavior pattern. I've read some stuff on non-violent communication (NVC) but I'm having...
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    Fluid bonding and cleanup

    To those of you who have vaginas and are fluid bonded to more than one penis owner (or are partnered to someone in that situation and know your partner's routines): What's your favorite method of cleanup between partners (sometimes in quick succession) that does not disrupt vaginal flora...
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    Sexting

    Not specific to poly relationships, but since this forum is more frank about sex than most, I'm bringing it here. I AM SO SHY ABOUT DESCRIBING SEX THINGS! I mean, obviously I can think of things that I want to DO—I’m not just operating on autopilot or something when I’m having sexytimes with...
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    Breakups & One-Track Mind

    So there are lots of tips around for how to keep your focus on your partner while you have NRE with someone else, but what about if your one-track mind is actually from a breakup with someone else, not a new beginning? One of my partners (who is also my fiancé's best friend) and I just dialed...
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    Poly Under Stress

    Does anyone else find it way closer to impossible to "do poly" without getting upset when you're at breaking-point-level stress in non-relationship areas of your life? I've been feeling like I just need a break from any additional complications in my life, since I just completed a cross-country...
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    Reading recommendations for control issues

    Hi all, Any suggestions for books or websites specifically addressing working my way through a control issue I've discovered within myself that I want to solve? The summary of the issue (reposted from my blog) is this: Basically, I have a burning need to know stuff, preferably before it...
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    LSB Weight Loss Daily Goals and Accomplishments

    "LSB" for "Life Stories & Blogs"—a weight loss thread for those of us who haunt the blog section. Let's post here the little things we do or aim to do each day to further our progress toward our goals. I'll start. I would like to lose about 15 pounds (most of which I've gained in the past...
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    Informational Privacy

    I have no pressing issue related to this question, but I have been pondering it casually because I don't really know where I come down on it. How do you guys feel about information transmission and privacy issues between partners? I, like many women I know, have the kind of relationship with...
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    Confused libido..

    Weird libido things that I have been thinking about that are troubling me... I've historically been a one-to-two times per week kind of gal, after a short, initial, NRE-fueled unlimited times per day stint that lasts for a couple weeks or months. This has been my pattern for most of my sexual...
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    Sleeping Arrangement Assumptions and Tactful Communication

    I'm looking for some advice on how to tactfully word something to a metamour who has become a friend, and I figured maybe some of you have navigated these waters before. Let me know what you think... My metamour has asked that I tell her if ever something that she does causes tension or makes...
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    How to overcome hatred of marks left?

    Usually, I keep to my blog (where you can read all the backstory to this, if you so desire) because usually things are going pretty well, but I really need some suggestions tonight. My boyfriend recently tried out a new kinky thing with a new-ish partner: "surface piercing," where needles are...
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    How important is it to get along with your metamour(s)?

    Some of you may know from my blog and a previous post that I've had an ongoing stressful situation with my main metamour, the co-primary of my primary. When I've written before, it's either been for blog venting/storytelling or to try to solve an acute, timely issue. This time, it is neither. I...
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    SuperbOwl Logistics

    The situation: - Metamour likes to pretend I do not exist (used to be DADT, but we're about a step beyond that now, to where she knows, but does not like to see evidence). - We've divvied up our days of the week such that they begin and end around 8-8:30 p.m., which usually works nicely. -...
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    Support vs. Meddling in Partner/Metamour Relationship

    OK, so I've been posting about this on and off in my blog, but I've been thinking a lot about it today, and I think it would be helpful to have the input of people who are more experienced in poly than I am (I've only got about 10 or 11 months' total experience, about 6 in my current...
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    The Best Life Yet

    Hello. I'm Reverie, and I'm brand new here! I'm mostly new to poly, too. I figured that I'd share my story here to inspire others—so far, it's going really well!—and also to chronicle my personal life in a way that I kind of can't on my "real" blog. About me: I'm a 32-year-old...
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