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  1. YouAreHere

    I'm desperate to discuss this video on poly with other poly people -- it's the most incredible argument for poly I've ever seen (feminist angle)

    We do have Scotch Broom, which is similar but less "bushy". In some areas of the country, it's EXTREMELY invasive, while in this area, it's still available in nurseries. I couldn't keep it alive in my yard, lol.
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    So this past weekend was the weekend I met my bio dad! All in all... it was an amazing weekend (excluding the hours-long drive through farmland, and getting stuck in terrible traffic thru the entire state of Delaware on the way back, lol). Lots of emotional stuff that will probably take a while...
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    Change in all the areas of my life...

    Jonathan Coulton is a genius. Lol...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    Ugh. Glad he got admitted, though, and that this is now on his record. Scary stuff, BB... please take some time for some self-care if you can.
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    Not on same page about bisexual wife exploring polyamory

    I wouldn't go so far as to assume she's lesbian, especially with Bi Erasure being a thing. She *can* be bi and have the same type of FOMO.
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    Ancestry gave me nothing, but 23andMe did, since they have different databases. Still, the privacy concerns are important ones - I get it. The Ancestry stuff does offer a subscription service (I think you get a month free) where you can get tips through old immigration / military / birth and...
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    If you're ok with the privacy concerns, then a DNA test may help - you'll definitely find some cousins (usually many times removed, lol), but it may help figure out the family tree. I did both Ancestry and 23andMe.
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    Spam getting worse...

    Me too - I was wondering what I missed! 😁
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    Poly dating: likes/dislikes, recommendations, and experiences...

    So, I ran across this thread this morning, and later today I ran across this kickstarter. Why I thought of you, I don't know... :) https://www.kickstarter.com/projects/nakedbitspuzzles/naked-bits-puzzles?ref=section-homepage-projectcollection-1-staff-picks-ending-soon
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    When I was little, my grandmother made me promise never to ask about him, so naive little me didn't. At least until I was planning to have kids and asked my mom about him so I could ask about medical history. She gave me his name but said he was adopted and may not know, so I didn't bother...
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    Fun and Frolic With Long-Term Love

    Internet hugs, BB... <3
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    Got woken up before 6am today by my tuxie who decided I had slept enough and kept gently (and adorably) pawing at my face. Sigh. We did have a nice play session after he ate and I got to watch the sun rise, so that was nice anyway. One thing I think I forgot to add to my blog is that I finally...
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    Not on same page about bisexual wife exploring polyamory

    To pop in again, I also wonder if Wonda's inability to plan and brainstorm is an avoidance technique. Does she not use these skills in her job? I'm a SW engineer/manager, so I can't NOT use those skills at work, but even if she's more of a researcher, she still needs to be working toward some...
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    Not on same page about bisexual wife exploring polyamory

    Welp, I seem to have entered this thread (and finally finished reading it) after OP has left the chat, so I have no idea if he's still reading. If so, you have my best wishes in this situation. One thing that really stands out to me is the following: Wonda doesn't brainstorm well; she wants to...
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    Q2 2021 Update: Nothing much to see here. BandKid has her driver's licence now (woohoo)! I have a pile of crocheted items that I need to give to their intended recipients, my almost 19-year-old cat has taken over the afghan I'm making for Cat Whisperer (clearly, I need to start another one)...
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    Should I be worried about my Meta?

    I will say this: Early-ish, in my relationship with Chops, he deflected a lot of the negotiations and laid them in my and Xena's laps, because it's "easier for us to work it out directly and not have him in the middle." Eventually, I'd had enough and told him that he IS in the middle, and he...
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    What you listening to Now :

    Backing this project on Kickstarter (so clearly not listening to it NOW, but...): Swing Sisters It's an electro-swing compilation with some good samples so far.
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    YouAreHere is... where? (Or, "This Road Map Still Sucks...") - Blog, Part II

    Let's see... post-holiday update ahead: GameBoy and I are still doing well. He's at my house every weekend and maybe one extra night a week, and I think I'm getting into the "God, that habit is annoying" phase of our relationship, lol. Still, he's more ADHD than I am, so I get it, and we roll...
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    Baby mama won't let partner see child post divorce, but ex wife and step mom can

    Lake needs to find a lawyer and work out a formal custody arrangement. Full stop.
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