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    Our poly mono relationship

    It is almost a year - 9-10 months to be exact - since my ex husband left us and my boyfriend/fiance and I have lived monogamously ever since. I have dealt with the grief of the breakup, which was not mutual. And there has emerged a sort of honeymoon energy between me and my boyfriend. So it...
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    Relationship downsizing

    It has been some months since my ex-husband left me (and my boyfriend) and it seems likely that we will not get back together. I have heard that it is usual that one person leaving can result in the whole relationship structure to disintegrate, and I am at times fearful for it happening to us...
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    How to talk about new life plans (poly to mono)

    Hi, I was originally planning to have kids with my ex, we made all the preperations for it but instead we broke up. Now I find myself in a mono relationship with my boyfriend. We are happy, although our relationship feels a bit severed sine my ex left. It was always the understanding that I was...
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    From lovers to friends

    Husband and I broke up recently - he moved out a few weeks ago. I still see my long term boyfriend, in a different country (although I have not visited him in a while). My husband wanted out, it was not a mutual decition. Poly was one of the biggest concerns, but we also had other issues. I...
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    Understanding a break-up

    Hi, my husband is leaving our romantic relationship, although it is not very clear to anyone why. Poly plays a part, but I have dated another man almost 4 years and they get along, I have met my second inlaws etc. My husband had a girlfriend during the first year I dated the other man. For the...
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    Husband now doubts poly

    Hi, summary; my husband dobuts poly after four years of me dating my boyfriend. What am I going to do? the full text; my husband says things have changed for him. He is not as comfortable with poly as he once was. He had a girlfriend for a short while a few years ago, and said after that he...
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    Comittment ceremony ideas

    I plan a legal divorce with my husband (for immigration purposes for my boyfriend). This is a huge sacrifice, and I want to make sure that my husband understands that in my heart nothing has changed. He loved getting married, and I want him to have that feeling still, even if he will not legally...
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    Legal plunder - divorce and remarriage?

    We are considering going for a legal divorce to be able to stay together as a family in one country. I know some who married one of their partners who do this, but have any of you experience with legal divorce and remarriage? So far as I have read the marriage and immigration laws in my...
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    Planning pregnancy - changes

    I plan having a child with my husband, who I have the longest relationship with. Boyfriend dont want a child with me now, but is positive towards this pregnancy. We are currently fluent bonded and I use hormonal birth control. I wondered about others in this situation: - How did the other...
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    Polyamory research - a sociology master thesis

    English/Norwegian sociology researcher Audrey Stark has public acess'ed her master thesis, based on 8 in debth interviews with members of the Norwegian polyamory network. Stark was just featured on Norwegian radio in relation to the 17th of September 2016 foundation of a Norwegian polyamory NGO...
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    Norwegian Poly NGO foundation gets huge press

    In connection to the public start up of the Norwegian polyamorous NGO PolyNorge, the national press was in touch even before the start up. The past two days, poly people were featured in national news channel, NRK, 3 times; The 17th of September in a radio interview (featuring a polyamorous...
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    Poly NGO -Norway, Europe

    Yesterday, the first Norwegian polyamory NGO was officially formed! PolyNorge i Norwegian, PolyNorway in English, is the name of the new NGO. The national broadcasting channell, NRK, has published a radio interview, a news article and a cronicke, and the NGO has gained quite some press even...
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    TTC - everyone on board?

    Husband and I planned kids a long time ago, actually what stopped us was my health at the time. Since, I have managed to crawl myself out of that rabbit hole, we moved to a bigger flat and we are turning our economy around. And I met another, beautiful man almost 3 years ago, he lives in another...
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    Role models breaking up

    Hi, I am not sure if others have this issue, but I feel very affected by it when some of my friends choose to end their relationships. I am sure they did their best to keep the relationships going, perhaps they were bad matches to begin with and so on, but I still feel bad when my friends break...
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    Legal and practucal issues - closing the distance internationally

    Hi, I know that families with more than two adults have gotten it easier than before. At least in my country, it is not illegal to cohabitat with more than one, or have two adresses (although one must be your official one), or buy a house or raise children together. My concern is for the...
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    Boyfriend having doubts

    I wrote a little while ago about my boyfriend of two years seeming to have a depressive reaction. About the same time as his boss started to act like an ass. Also, lots of negative things happened to us this year: a close friend cheated us out of money, many of his colleagues were sacked, our...
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    Love tatoos

    I am usually not that into love tatoos - and have seen more than one time that the relationship ends and people still have the tattoos... However, today I saw this wonderful set of tatoos that were not similar, but sort of part of a set... and I wondered: is the any poly "couples" (I don't...
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    Want to help my boyfriend

    I really want to help my boyfriend. For a couple of months, he has struggled with what seems to me like a mental breakdown or a depressive reaction. I can see a change, he himself says that "of course I don't want to be this way. I feel like I have lost myself", his brother visited and left...
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    Activities for three

    I have been thinking a bit on how we will spend more time together as three... I usually live most of the time with my husband and some with my boyfriend, but some holiday time we live together all three of us in either place. I have some activities that I do with one or both of them seperately...
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    Poly logistics

    Hi, I am the hinge of a V. I usually visit my boyfriend. My boyfriend is finally coming to see us. He, my husband and I have lived together for one week on two occations before, where we practiced me spending every other night in their beds. This time, he will stay in my country a month. That...
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