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    what is "in the closet" ?

    101 things that are illegal for no other reason that it offends someone, and a whole world of oppression arises from that, ... what a strange world best part of poly i like "own your own shit", ... the reality is if you have a problem with something "YOU" have a problem with something, ... when...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    ya, have seen some pretty crazy stuff , ... even current stuff, it makes you wonder what are they thinking ??? like the whole polygamy thing, it's pretty much illegal everywhere, ... so the fundamental religious groups (where it's illegal) isolate themselves in their communes, and do whatever...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    i have no idea about how far things are and are not allowed, age of concent obviously, but i think that's about it. it was a court case involving brother & sister
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    i was surprised to hear an australian judge pretty much legalize incest. i thought polygamy would be legalized first i am sure in time things will reach a better state of acceptance in all things & all relationship types, ... till then, here's hope :) there is never a wrong way to love...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    most places are conservative :( those in power, it's what they are familiar with, and they don't want to upset what they are familiar with. yes, the FMF thing i heard was brazil, not australia, thanks for the clarification :)
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    there's a couple places in the world triads & V's have found the closest the laws will allow to marriage and it's become public, ... one was a V (i think it was a V), one man and 2 women, ... i think that one was australia, not sure the triad was 3 women, i think in sweden
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    "polyfidelity" is one i would say is an improvement over the several that have similar meanings to each other and this one. it doesn't take much at all for anyone to see exactly what this word means even without any deep understanding of the poly community or it's ins & outs it also avoids the...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    if you are strait or gay/lesbian, what's wrong with polygyny or polyandry, they may not be common, but they say that aspect 100% "commited to X gender" if bisexual, well, that needs something, especially when about 2/3 of the population are comfortable from one extent or another in an interest...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    why use one word ? why say you are poly anything as a single explain everything, ... that now the rest of the world has to learn about, adapt to, learn what the word means, and get some clear idea so they can see how it's different from the multitude of other words. why use one new word to...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    i'm usually very good at picking up and identifying other people, ... but when i point it out, i am horrible at making it sound nice, which is often met with defensive anger & storming out after saying "you don't know me", with nothing else to say. this isn't about my experience, it's what i am...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    both, at least both for a bit. first the concept will be too associated with the word, and that will turn everyone away, then over time it will resurface with a new word Edit: it's easiest seen currently with the trend of people referring to polyamory as "ethical non-monogamy", that seems to...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    if one stops and looks at our relationship makeup, ... who we are attracted to what we consider ourselves to relate closer to how long we maintain relationships how many partners if sex is involved qualities we consider attractive ... a few other things i can't think of at the moment each of...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    i've asked tons of questions about poly (from withing the community) trying to bring some sense of simplification to say this is poly, this is open, this is swinging, etc. it's like there is 101 terms in poly that make about 5 or 6 real different situations with regards to relationship...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    not opposed to any of it, ... i'm a little curious (of a sort), why you think me seeing the eventual outcome of poly becoming known as little else other than "ethical sleeping around" means i'm opposed to it. i'm curious how you made that leap. i'm curious where you got the idea that i implied...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    some people don't have to be hurt to see the writing on the wall and know what's coming till this poly thing passes as a fad, ... and the negative description so many don't want to admit, "ethically sleeping around" not sure what will come first, ... either the revamped description or it...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    as for goading, ... no i don't care to do such things as for "asking different questions" , don't care to now, i'm settled on what is, isn't, and practice the practice is the part that frustrated me, so i refuse to be poly anything in any term, polyfidelity or otherwise. i am not going to be...
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    to quote another person i spoke with "... people who use the word poly to be non committal with everyone. It's got a bad rep because of the people who misrepresent it." but hey, lets ignore that.
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    Loving Radiance, ... from your example (nice BTW :), ... ditch the whole poly(anything) then, describe what actually is instead of using a term that has no meaning what-so-flipping-ever :), got it :) thanks
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    or to the poly women, they just love how the guys think poly means you have anonymous sex with everyone (that's defended as poly as well btw)
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    what is "in the closet" ?

    with poly being as vague a definition as a definition can have, ... virtually anyone and their dog can say they are poly regardless of what they have in mind for a relationship (or lack there of) so being polyamorous really doesn't say anything about anyone other than a word some people like to...
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