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    Talking it out

    Hubby's mom has taken a turn for the worse. They're not sure she'll be here this time next year. I wanted to postpone traveling, but that's not happening now. I don't worry about myself as much as I worry about those we're going to see. His dad insists it's okay and is very careful himself...
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    Poly because of boredom

    I would worry that you would be looking for a missing piece to a puzzle versus actually looking for an individual human with actual needs and desires. What happens when you get bored of the new person? Find another? Then another? Then another? It's a potential never ending cycle of...
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    Poly because of boredom

    I think it depends what you mean by "bored." Do you mean that your relationship and selves are healthy but you have free time and figure why not? Or do you mean you're not really interested in each other for the exciting stuff anymore but don't want to break up so dating others sounds like a...
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    What are the laws regarding polygamy in US

    Sharia court would be legal in the US, but for the most part religious law does not supercede political law (there are exceptions). So, even if polygamy is legal in a certain religion, it has to be done a specific way to make it legal with the government (like only one legal marriage, the rest...
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    Talking it out

    The holidays were so fun. We were able to go to a local theater and see the new Spiderman. Little girl and I also went to see an old Christmas movie there. So fun. Life is still busy as ever though. We got some family pictures taken that I haven't done anything with yet. I need to get...
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    Unicorn hunters

    Good to know that you consider yourself a disgusting pig. It's that "clarity" that tends to make unicorn hunting toxic, BTW. You're not leaving room for an actual human to have actual opinions.
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    Unicorn hunters

    Unicorn hunting is often done unethically making it not polyamory. If it's ethical, it's poly. Do a site search for Unicorn hunting, and you'll find many many resources on the pitfalls of hunting. In general, having a specific role planned for a person without input from that person is...
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    How to throuple?

    I'm going to have to agree. 1. You and ex have never had an ethical relationship. Don't ask/don't tell or mutual cheating is not ethical nonmonogamy. What makes you think you're able to do it now? Have you done any preparation? 2. He's in a monogamous relationship with someone who doesn't...
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    My wife said she is poly, but is what she is doing, actually poly?

    Short answer? No, what your wife is doing is not polyamory. Polyamory requires the knowledge and consent of everyone involved. You do not consent (coercion until agreement =/= consent). Boyfriend does not consent. Long answer? Your relationship is not okay. It wasn't okay monogamously, and...
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    Sudden Onset Polyamory....

    Hubby and I started out swinging together until I caught the feels for our friend/swing partner. Her husband not so subtly encouraged me to admit it to her, and we tried "dating" (it was really just more affection and alone time while the guys pursued other interests both together and...
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    Ownership

    Ownership in a relationship is a very specific agreement, but the words "I'm yours, you're mine" don't necessarily mean ownership. Boy will squeeze me and say "mine" or will put an emphasis on MY (my name) or girlfriend or whatever occasionally. We've talked about it, and he means it in a...
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    Talking it out

    My period was late. I tested. It was faintly positive, but I started my period later that day. So either a very early miscarriage or a false positive. I don't really have strong feelings either way, other than being glad I didn't tell either guy about the test. I've been playing the swipey...
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    Not ok?

    In my experience it does the opposite. The time spent together and bed sharing become more intentional instead of being something easy to take advantage of. I miss having my own room because, like you, I can't really relax in the main house when it's quiet and solitude that I need. Sharing a...
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    need advice for lonely partner

    So, let me make sure I understand. You are dating your (nesting?) long term partner. You are also dating your new partner who started as a mutual friend/is part of you AND your long term partner's social group. Long term partner has another partner? Or no because you've recently opened so her...
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    How to avoid hierachy?

    Just be honest. It's fair to feel slighted. He's supposedly working to get to a nonmonogamous space with girlfriend so he can be with you? Yet he's moving that relationship to living together BEFORE they've worked out the issues with nonmonogamy? Nah. Intentional or not, he's on the escalator...
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    Talking it out

    I have been in the worst mood the last couple of days. The holidays approaching often hits me like this. A combination of excitement and sadness. I'm trying to teach the child about the actual history of the holidays and not just the happy "together and thankful" stuff, while still enjoying the...
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    Partners at Different Stages

    I agree with mags. Seems like she's giving you what she can/wants to. Sounds like she doesn't really want to be open but doesn't want constant cheating either. So she tries but can't wholeheartedly consent to anyone because reasons (maybe she's not actually bi, maybe she's not actually...
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    Female looking for MFM

    Vee? Triad? Threesome? Open or closed? All possible, some more likely than others. Some more likely to last long term than others. Just depends on the people.
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    Partners at Different Stages

    If you remove the E, be prepared for her to never trust you again. 30 minutes a week is honestly plenty if there aren't lots of new people joining the sites regularly. Finding someone that she's attracted to, you're likely to be attracted to, and interested in couples can be really hard...
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