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  1. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    That's about where I'm at at this point. Not enough time. I'm on the internet every couple of days...so you're right about me being busy. MsEmotional references the "tenets" of polyamory. Which I'm guessing is pretty much the same as rules. The upshot of it is... those on this forum...
  2. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    There has definitely been a lot of change in my life in the past few months, but I would say that involving more people means that there will always be more going on. I would expect that would be true for poly families, but apparently the average member of this forum lives in peace and calm and...
  3. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    Well…it has been a holiday week, so forgive my absence. I have a family to attend to… With only 70 posts in 8 months, it isn’t exactly like I live here. Which is probably a good thing. I walk away from this for a few days, and the whole thing blows up in my face. Nice… Since it is...
  4. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    Yes, it is Swift's babies. I use the term "kids" as a catch-all for "human being younger than a teenager." They've had some of the minor medical issues that babies get, but nothing major. Swift stresses easily over her children, and is likely to be the "doting helicopter mother" in the...
  5. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    I’ve thought of this before, and it explains a lot. I had a lot of contact with her during her teenage years helping her with her studies and life in general, so she probably still sees me somewhat in that role, and has combined it with her romantic attachment. I try to give her whatever she...
  6. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    I'll admit, you definitely have a point. Our house is a pile of insecurities from our former lives. To deal with it...there's so much I don't think it can be unraveled. Here's just a sampling: Me - alcoholic/abusive father, mom in prison Renarde - genderfluid with identity issues Corsac -...
  7. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    Swift tends to crave attention from partners who are older. She had intentions toward Reina several years ago already when she was still quite young, and married Ares when she was barely 18. I think part of her attraction to me is due to our age difference, and also our physical difference...
  8. majormerrick

    Lots of change all at once

    There have been three major relationship changes/additions in our family in the last week or so, and I’m kind of overwhelmed. In a good way, but overwhelmed. The first thing that happened is a change in my relationship with Swift. She was feeling ignored and so I made a conscious effort to...
  9. majormerrick

    The Insanity of "Coming Out"

    I think that "coming out" is easier when you are already seen as that weird/marginalized/unique kind of person. My friends and coworkers have always known that I have girlfriends...so when it came up that I have two GFs at the same time, nobody was really surprised. People raised an eyebrow...
  10. majormerrick

    recurring patriarchal problem

    Well, we certainly have different opinions on it. I think that's part of what is nice about poly... different forms for different people. Your ideas are very valid, however I don't believe in a universal kind of feminism. I question the necessity of the male libido for sexual pleasure. I...
  11. majormerrick

    Public Perception of Poly

    The public perception? 1. Free love, hippie leftism, open marriage. "We're together but always looking." 2. Big Love/SisterWives. "The TV curiosity." 3. Unicorn hunters. "We want a third person to relieve our boredom or fix our marriage." 4. FLDS/tribalism/oppression. "Barefoot, pregnant...
  12. majormerrick

    recurring patriarchal problem

    I think it becomes an issue because of biology. Men are wired to compete with each other for access to women due to the desire (conscious or not) to have kids. You simply can't undo it. The cuckold issue comes from the idea that like it or not, society is patriarchal. Even in America, women...
  13. majormerrick

    Bi Femaly / Straight male looking for female

    You're not going to find it online. Its just that simple. Everybody and their brother is on the internet looking for women, and it is much easier for a woman to find a man online than the reverse. This becomes doubly hard if you are a couple looking for a woman - that seems to be the...
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    Poll: "I am non-white"

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    Why polyamory is a CHOICE

    It seems like some folks have super strong opinions about what is or is not "poly" and whether it is or is not innate to our personality, genes, nature, or whatever. Like most things....it varies. I suppose that for some people like PurpleSun, being polyamorous is just like being lesbian -...
  16. majormerrick

    How is *your* need for security met?

    To cope with insecurity, I focus on the idea that none of us is truly the "best, first, most, only" or whatever to anybody else. We have unique relationships, and some relationships naturally have a slight priority over others, but we try to mend fences if that happens. With Ares, I have a...
  17. majormerrick

    polygamy is not polyfidelity

    I doubt that such a system is possible today. Maybe in an isolated place somewhere, but not in a modern society. Even in the FLDS, women have had same-sex relations. Women's sex drive for each other can be pretty strong....
  18. majormerrick

    polygamy is not polyfidelity

    I would think that in a system where there are more women than men, the men would be the bargaining tokens... But then, men might find the idea of a female-majority system a bit threatening. Your statement also discounts the increasing number of women who are choosing same-sex relationships...
  19. majormerrick

    Making up with ignored partner

    Wow. The "duty" word really gets people going... I came to this idea on my own, long before I got back together with Ares. It is a personal belief of mine, that meshes pretty well with my faith and my family. It starts out logically. What do couples (triples, polycules, etc) fight most...
  20. majormerrick

    polygamy is not polyfidelity

    I know that my perspective is a definite minority on this issue, but here it is. When people think of “polygamy” they go to Mormonism, cults, Warren Jeffs, Lost Boys, etc… It is popular to think of it that way. But believe it or not, there are women such as myself who were not raised around...
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