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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    Thank you so much for your straight forward and informative answer. I'm trying to take into account all of the new information and possibilities that could take place while also not overwhelming us both with everything. I know it seems like I'm just giving in to him but I could also just...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    Not per se, but I'm trying to keep myself open to it. I have wondered if it would be a good show of faith to him if I initiated first as some of his few kind of more quiet objections so far have been he's worried he'll be the only one participating and I'll just be sitting around being jealous...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    He's expresses he can't just sleep with girls he doesn't know. So the girls he says he has actually wanted to sleep would be girls who would be aware of what is going on. This is also why I wanted the agreement of meeting the others potential sexual partners. This way all parties are aware of...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    I'm going to make it a point that we have to sit down and talk about it at least once a month and rediscuss and see how we feel. It'll be a process for both of us but I think as long as we can stay on top of it we can do it. I had started discussing it with him here and there so it's not all one...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    Thank you I will definitely take that advice and call them agreements as for the last agreement you mentioned. Its more of we meet at some point before the sexual relationship is formed so that all parties acknowledge there is a relationship there. It's something he's agreed to already actually...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    I wrote this post initially before I did my own research what I want is more of an open relationship. I referred to it as "Poly" only because I didn't really understand the terminology being such a newbie and my partner has never been in this type of relationship either and also referred to it...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    Yes, that is all correct and thank you so much I have been reading and making notes of the links you've provided a lot of it is very helpful! We've both been really busy with work and me with school at the moment but as soon as we are both free we are going to sit down and read over my notes...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    This is exactly what I needed to hear (read?). Thank you so much. I have also been talking it over with some friends who have been in/are close to people in them (open/poly relationships). I was worried about having a lot to help myself feel secure in the beginning but it's great to see this...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    I see where you took what a said misleadingly. However it's not a break up issue. We tried just being friends, we tried just being sexual partners and it never works. We always wind up being more on both fronts. And it's much deeper than a fear of being broken up with. It's this slow drawn out...
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    Hello, bit of a newbie but want to learn!

    Hello everyone! I'm sorry this is going to be a long post. I hope that's acceptable! I'm new to both this board and the poly-open world of dating I've always had traditional relationships until now. It started as an attempt at a monogamous relationship between me and a man I originally slept...
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