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    Elizabeth, thanks for the message and I am sure that things will with out for the best. I've...

    Elizabeth, thanks for the message and I am sure that things will with out for the best. I've learned something over the course of the past few weeks with my beaus...patience is critical to making situations like this work. The right timing for the right people at the right moment in their...
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    Why and how did you get into poly?

    Poly and Me...and Dupree I first heard of polyamory from a short romance I had with a man named C. Typical alpha male, strong muscular type-hyper intelligent and dominant, back in the 90s. It was all just talk then, because neither had that experience yet. While he was not involved with...
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    Considering Polyamory.

    Yes, I also agree that this has the potential to be an amazing experience, and I also recognize there are differences, especially considering that all three of us will be intimate. I suppose one thing that helps to clarify is that in this particular grouping, the physical aspects are about as...
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    Coming in from the cold

    My ex has written books about the church and it's poly-past, literally. Usually within the context of queer theoretical studies or defining sexualities within the context of religious faith - academic word smithing, more or less. One fascinating piece he wrote was about the Oneida group from...
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    Trinogamy - any successful Gay triads with advice?

    Very insightful, and I think in general you are right. Part of the issue that makes this perhaps unique is that one of them and I had a romantic history prior to their union, and if not for a professional relocation we very possibly would be married today. And if I didn't like R so dang much...
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    Coming in from the cold

    Yes, I realize I am the throws of this new term NRE. (Learning something new every day). Our communication has been the only thing really between the three of us at this point. Yes, we've gone on social outings, had dinner together, but we are moving into the other aspects of the relationship...
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    Trinogamy - any successful Gay triads with advice?

    I see on the forums a lot of posts about polyamory where it is one person having intimate relationships with more than one person, but they do not have the same level of intimacy with one another, or at least not sexually. I am entering into a triad where all three of us are intimate, sometimes...
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    Advice On Opening An Existing Relationship

    I had a similar experience as yours with my ex of 12 years. We stopped having any sex life at all for the final five years we were together. I met someone else who I developed feelings for, and even though initially my ex was ok with an "open relationship" concept, things changed when he...
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    Coming in from the cold

    Hey all, new to the site, new to polyamory and looking for some friendly faces, shared stories, conversations, experiences, perhaps someone to vent with on occasion...anything that can provide insight into the poly world that I find myself entering into. A quick bit about my sit. I am a gay...
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    Considering Polyamory.

    Thanks, that IS good advice, and I am taking a deep breath, relaxing and soaking it all in.
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    Of course this could work, but is it for us?

    New to this too My advice? Continue with the therapy. But I would also suggest going to see a therapist together...not because you are having problems coping with polyamory per say...but because it can be emotionally complex enough to love and share with multiple partners, with or without...
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    Considering Polyamory.

    Hello, all. I am slightly nervous to be here honestly, but I really feel I need to have a community in which I am able to share, learn and develop healthy tools for living in a poly relationship. I am a 42 year old gay male, recently out of a 12 year long relationship with one man. Prior to...
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