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  1. PhilosophicallyLost

    Poly essentially unfair?

    In my husband and one of his close friends, I have encountered a sentiment of poly being essentially unfair. He's even told me that he doesn't wish to date a girl outside of me because he thinks it would be unfair to *me*. I found the statement strange, because I found it assumptive on what I...
  2. PhilosophicallyLost

    Status update: Improvement

    I have not posted in quite some time. A lot of changes have occurred in the last six months. I was struggling pretty significantly in June, but coming to the end of the year I am finding many more things to feel hopeful about. Y and I bought a house and we have embarked on a new page in our...
  3. PhilosophicallyLost

    Having trouble with legitimizing my feelings.

    Sometimes just looking at the threads on this forum help me feel less freaky. Anyway, my husband and I have tried letting me be poly with his best friend for a year. In the last few months things have settled finally to a degree. My husband's anxiety spells are greatly reduced, which in turn...
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    I think the three of us need a talk.

    But perhaps you can confirm this. I'm writing this with a headache, so I apologize if stuff is sorta fuzzy on the details. The living arrangements have become a major issue. Hubby doesn't like having E as a room mate anymore. The reasons are wide and varied: 1. E is overly talkative and can...
  5. PhilosophicallyLost

    "He doesn't deserve it."

    Ugh. How to keep this succinct. I asked my husband early on in the poly thing if I could sleep the night with my boyfriend sometimes (just generic sleep). He said no, and it was still a fresh hurt to him so I didn't bring it up for several months. I waited until he and my boyfriend worked...
  6. PhilosophicallyLost

    Pushing onward in the face of adversity

    It's been a while since I've posted. I've struggled with time management, but I'm doing a bit better with that lately. Even though I have some friends who know of my poly arrangement, I have sometimes felt very isolated and alone in my pursuit of poly. Some of this stems from how badly one of...
  7. PhilosophicallyLost

    Time management is becoming a nightmare

    It's been a while since I posted...primarily because of the issue mentioned in the title. There are many challenging things going on right now in my relationship with Y and E, but time management is frustrating me the most right now. Let me start off by saying I'm an introvert, and Y and E are...
  8. PhilosophicallyLost

    Chronicles of a hopeless romantic

    I figured I need a place to just voice some of the more positive things going on in my new ventures into polydom. It can be so easy to get wrapped up in the bad, especially since I've been having a lot of stress in my life over it lately (nothing really within my control, though). This trip...
  9. PhilosophicallyLost

    Polyamory: Why is it not immoral?

    This stems from the falling out I've had with my brother over my decision to try poly. He's very much of the belief that my choice to do so is immoral and he seems to find it be a very unhealthy relationship structure devoid of proper commitment. I will be responding to his comments with a...
  10. PhilosophicallyLost

    How did your mono S/O react when you first suggested poly?

    I'm looking for some perspective and some ideas. I imagine some of you are like myself in that you fell in love with another person after entering a monogamous marriage/commitment. When you decided to break the news to your mono S/O, what were the challenges you faced? My husband is still...
  11. PhilosophicallyLost

    Learning the juggling act and feeling a bit overwhelmed....

    Been trying out the poly thing in my family for a little over a month now. I think some reality has begun to set in, and I'm suddenly feeling a little freaked out I guess. While being with Y and E is a dream come true, I am coming off that high a bit and am seeing more clearly now that happily...
  12. PhilosophicallyLost

    Brother not taking my news of trying poly very well.

    Uh, that's an understatement. He's REALLY not taking it well. But some background first. My brother, M, and I have been best friends my entire life. He's over seven years older than me, and in lots of regards he has sorta raised me in my morals and being forgiving of people who were mean to...
  13. PhilosophicallyLost

    Ye people of much wisdom, I desperately need your help...

    I imagine many posters here have had many experiences to draw from. I never really considered polyamory until just last summer. And the idea has been haunting me since. What I need help with is sorting my emotions out, as I'm too entrenched into my current situation to even think very...
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