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Thank you for your kind words, fuchka. :) Yeah, it's true that at least now I know for sure what I'm looking for and I can try to achieve that once I'm healed. My heart is still aching pretty badly at the moment. We said we want to remain friends, and I really do want that, but it will take...

Hello to anyone who still reads this. Things have changed, and I'm no longer in any sort of poly relationships, since me and Marco broke up. :( He told me a few weeks ago that he doesn't want to have kids and it's come up before that it's unlikely that he'd be able to move to my country in the...

Hello! It's been almost a year since I last wrote here, so I thought I'd give you an update. Living in my home country has been good, it was the right decision. I recently bought a little house in my home town as well, so now I'm very close to my family and some old friends, which feels lovely...

It's been a while! So, I've now moved back to my home country. And nothing has gone the way I expected poly-wise. :p I thought I'd just stop being poly and find a monogamous person to date eventually. Well, in the end I just couldn't let go of Marco. What we have is so special. Of course we'll...

I've now set a fairly firm timetable for the move. Firm in the sense that I've actually started to contact moving companies. I'm moving in two months, in mid-September. I've gone back and forward with it, at times doubting the decision and once delaying the moving date, but in the end coming to...

Based on the responses so far, I'd say you are correct. :) It seems that there are people who couldn't be happy romantically without being poly and then there are people who could take it or leave it - just depends on the situation whether they're choosing a poly relationship or not.

I think that even though poly relationships/situations are more compelling or desirable to some people than others, in the end it is a choice to act on that desire. I don't think it's the same as sexual orientation. Personally I've been in a situation where I was in a monogamous relationship...

Thanks for your comments, fuchka and opalescent! :) I do feel pretty settled with this decision. I mean, of course it's going to be hard to leave a place I've spent a significant chunk of my life in and made important connections in, but...it's time. The last couple of times I've spent time...

I've made a big decision: I'm going to move back to Home Country. That's of course going to be hard for me and Marco, but he's just not in a position to give me the kind of partnership I want and I haven't found anyone else here who could either. I've started to really miss my mom and I want to...

Congratulations! I'm so happy for you! :)

I've been keeping this advice in mind, it's a good one. I recently hung out with the person I mentioned months ago, the one I was interested in but decided not to do anything about. I didn't even tell her I have a crush on her, but I found out in conversation that she's not looking for romantic...

Thanks for your input, Meera! Yep, I have come to this conclusion too. Paige has some qualities that I already know wouldn't work for me in a house sharing situation, so I'm not going to go down that route. I also don't think I'd want to live in a multi-partner situation in general, but I was...

Thank you for posting this, Reverie. It's so beautifully written. <3 I'm glad you've found what works for you, and I wish all the good things for you going forward with monogamy!

Thank you so much for your perspective, breathemusic! I will definitely take it into account. :)

I just thought of one outside the box option: 4) Move in with a friend who is in a similar situation and treat each other as 'life partners' in that sharing of everyday life and having each other's backs kind of way Pros: + I'd get to continue the relationship with Marco. + I'd get some...

Hello again readers! I decided to revive the blog for a while at least, because I don't know what to do with my life and I need help. So comments are very welcome! Here's the situation: As you see, I've been thinking about this for months now: what are the limits of this relationships and...

Oh no, I'm really sorry to hear that, opalescent! :( *hugs if welcome*

Thank you Reverie, for writing this blog all the years that you did. It has been a joy to read, you write so well. :) Good luck going forward, I hope everything works out for the best, whatever that may be!

Thanks opalescent! I also get a lot out of your updates, so I understand. Maybe I'll start with taking a break and see how I go on. I have to admit I'm already missing writing here, but I think it will just take a while before I get used to not processing most of my stuff here.

Thanks for your comment, MeeraReed! Your reason for not having a blog sounds pretty similar to my reason #2. I also would like my life to be more balanced and not just about relationships. I mean, I do like thinking and talking about relationships, if I'm honest. I think they are a fascinating...