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    Jealousy, Envy, WTF

    Hmm. Where do I start? I've been doing poly for a little over five years. In that time, I've had four long-ish term relationships. My husband is monogamous. So were my first two boyfriends, though the first one had occasional no-strings no-emotion hookups with other women. Then I met my...
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    Feeling Abandoned

    I posted about this in my blog, but wanted people's thoughts on the situation. Since September, I've been seeing a guy I refer to on here as "Facets." He's been good for me in a lot of ways, though we've also had issues (which have mostly been due to miscommunications and to incorrect beliefs...
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    "PolyBorg Collective"

    Those who read my old blog before the Great Blog Devastation of 2016 might remember me using the term "PolyBorg Collective" to refer to the kitchen table sort of poly, where people are friends with and socialize with their metamours and everyone's one big happy group. A conversation with a...
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    New Navigation

    So I've decided to kick off a new blog thread here. With some big changes from the way I did things with my old one. I'm finding that I have a lot of things to work through and process when it comes to stuff like socializing and sex. Decades of mixed messages or flat-out negative ones implanted...
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    Friends With the Ex?

    This came up in GFT's blog thread, but it's also been an ongoing debate I've had over the past few weeks. There's no right or wrong here; I just want to get other people's take on it, because I'm trying to figure out whether *my* way of looking at it is wrong. (It's been heavily implied to me...
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    This May Be a Stupid Question...

    ...and this might not be the right section of the forum on which to post it, but it didn't seem to fit anywhere else. Some of you know me relatively well, so you know social skills are far from my strong point. Recently, I've discovered just how not-strong they are... I've been attending a...
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    Not sure whether...

    ...this is a whine, a vent, or a request for advice. Probably some combination of the three. My marriage is probably the best it's been in a long time. Hubby's been putting in the work he wasn't putting in for a while, and I'm trying to be more compassionate and understanding when he isn't...
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    Not Coping Well With Others

    Okay, so not a very clear thread title. I was trying to make it relevant without being wicked long...The *post* is wicked long, so there's a tl/dr at the end. I'm aware that my emotions in this situation might be caused by, or causing, irrational thoughts. I'm also aware that I'm probably being...
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    Guilt About Overnights

    Back when Hubby and I started the open marriage thing, we made an agreement that we would never spend the night with another partner, but about three months after I started seeing S2 last year, Hubby consented to me spending two nights a month at S2's. That lasted until June, when S2...
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    Successful Messages

    We have the "Most Recent OKC message" thread, but that seems to be mostly about WTF messages people have received. In light of a couple-few questions on here lately about meeting people online, and given my own difficulties in composing coherent introduction messages, I was thinking maybe people...
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    Facebook Harassment

    I'm a published author. As part of promoting myself and my teen fiction books, every week I do a vlog (video blog). The link gets posted, among other places, on my pen name's Facebook profile, which is public. Yesterday's vlog was about S2. A thank you to him for being a good friend, and for...
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    When to Quit?

    I think this is mostly a "have I lost my mind and dignity" question... and I know what type of answers I might be in for, so I'm going to try to take what I get without doing my usual wordy-analytical thing that makes people think I'm arguing with them. As I've been posting in my blog, S2 and I...
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    Let's Talk About Sex...

    ... or, more accurately, talk about talking about sex. My intention in starting this thread is mostly to seek reassurance that I'm not alone in having an issue like this. It gets long, because background. I was brought up in a household where one parent, from the youngest age I can remember...
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    Screwing with my own head...

    I've blogged a little about this in my blog thread, but I know I'm more likely to get advice or feedback here. First off... I have depression and anxiety. And I'm in the northeastern US, where out of the past 3 weeks or more, I think we've only had 2 days of sunshine. We've also had over 6 FEET...
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    Debating Telling My Kid...

    I'm sure there are tons of threads about this topic, but my forum-search-fu is weak. As I've posted in my blog and elsewhere on this forum, my 19-year-old daughter has been told that Hubby and I are able to see other people if we choose, and she has been told that I'm polyamorous. She knows...
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    Partners' Envy

    First, although I've said this elsewhere in these forums, I want to clarify that for *me* (and my partners), "jealousy" means wanting what someone else has and wanting them to NOT have it; while "envy" just means wanting what someone else has but not having a problem with the other person also...
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    Negotiating Openness...

    I had an argument with Hubby this morning that has me scratching my head and needing some help figuring out how to address it. Last week when I visited Guy, he and I talked about being more open about our relationship. Not so much going around telling everyone, but just not hiding it. Feeling...
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    Charting Our Course

    (Because Hubby works on boats, so I always get into the nautical references...) When I was a teenager, I read books with love triangles and always found myself wondering why the character had to choose between the love interests. Why couldn't everyone agree to make it work? Throughout my first...
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    Salutations

    I found my way here from Polyamoryonline.org. I've never thought of myself as monogamously-oriented, but my first marriage was monogamous. My second marriage was monogamous until March of last year, when my husband suggested we try an open marriage arrangement, which initially was pretty much...
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