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    Ethical issues in nonprimary relationships: input needed for poly conference

    What ethical issues arise in your nonprimary relationships? (You know, the ones that don't involve or aren't heading toward sharing a household or finances, strong public presentation as a "couple" or larger unit which "always comes first" or other explicit or implicit hierarchy, etc.) At...
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    More tips for treating non-primary partners well

    Hi, folks Many thanks to the people on this forum who contributed their suggestions on how to treat non-primary partners well in poly/open relationships. It's proven to be the most popular post on SoloPoly.net -- read over 14,000 times so far, and daily traffic is still going strong! Which is...
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    The gift of owning up after breaking up

    One of the best aspects of polyamory is that just because an intimate relationship ends or changes doesn't mean you need to eliminate that former partner from your life -- something that's sadly the social default setting in mono-land. Setting up a positive "aftership" often requires some...
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    The good stuff: What's great about being solo and poly?

    Hi, folks I feel like on SoloPoly.net I've been focusing a lot on the challenges faced by non-primary partners and poly/open people who are solo (that is, they either don't have, aren't seeking, or don't live with a primary partner of their own). But hell, it's the holidays -- so let's break...
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    Input needed on crowdsourced article about couple privilege & polyamory

    Hi folks A while back several people in this forum offered their ideas and tips on how to treat non-primary partners well in poly/open relationships. That led to my recent crowdsourced article on my blog SoloPoly, which has been attracting a fair amount of discussion in the poly/open community...
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    Non-primary partners speak out on how to treat us well in poly/open relationships

    Earlier I posted to this forum, asking people here for do's/don'ts about how they prefer to be treated in poly/open relationships. This was part of a crowdsourcing project I'm doing for my blog SoloPoly.net, to create a list of do's/don'ts that can serve as a positive model -- since social...
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    Input from non-primary partners sought: How to treat non-primaries well?

    I run a blog called SoloPoly.net, which is by and for people who identify as poly or open who don't have (and perhaps don't want or aren't seeking) a primary partner of their own. http://SoloPoly.net I'm putting together a post that would be list of tips intended for people in poly/open...
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    SoloPoly session at Poly Living: Feb 8-10, Philadelphia

    I just learned that I will be running a session on solo polyamory at the Poly Living conference, Feb 8-10, 2013 in Philadelphia. I’m really excited about this opportunity, and am grateful to the nonprofit Loving More for including this important and under-discussed topic in the conference...
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    etiquette for excerpting/linking to posts & threads here?

    Hi. I blog about poly/open relationships at SoloPoly.net, and this forum offers a wealth of insight and perspectives. It's also not a hidden forum, which means forum posts show up I. Google searches and can be easily linked to from anywhere. If I'd like to mention a forum thread or a specific...
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    How "out" are you as poly, really? And why?

    Hi, folks Yesterday was National Coming Out Day -- which isn't just an LGBTQ thing. It's for us poly folk too. So I did a post on SoloPoly.net (a blog for, by, and about poly/open people who don't have and maybe don't want a primary-style partner) about "outness" issues. Especially how being...
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    Solo, poly, and dating: What's it like for you?

    Hi, folks New to this forum, but I've been poly for well over a decade. I'm a single woman in midlife, a successful independent professional who enjoys my autonomy, and I don't have (and am not seeking) a "primary" life partner. The confluence of these characteristics seems to make me kind of...
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