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  1. Al99

    "Polysecure" by Jessica Fern

    The book, Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma and Consensual Nonmonogamy, by Jessica Fern happened to show up in my Amazon list of suggested books - not surprisingly as I've ordered the Kindle versions of a couple dozen or so poly-related books from them, but it's been a couple of years since I've...
  2. Al99

    Article: Solo-Polyamory Could Change the Way You Think About Love

    This article seems to be making the rounds lately - my long distance partner just posted it to the poly FB group that she moderates - and I noticed it linked on three other poly FB groups that I monitor as well. So thought I would share it here as well. While it might be of particular interest...
  3. Al99 podcast interview with Tristan Taormino

    Another Poly PSA: Multiamory's most recent podcast is an interview with Tristan Taormino, author of the highly regarded poly text: Opening Up: A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships.
  4. Al99

    New Podcast on Polyamory Weekly

    Just a PSA for fans of the Polyamory Weekly podcast - After an 8 month hiatus, Cunning Minx has posted a new podcast - aptly entitled "Where the fuck have we been?".
  5. Al99

    The Polyamory Song

    This came across one of the FB poly groups that I monitor - just for fun, I thought I would share. :) Not a musical masterpiece, but good for a smile. (Apologies if this has been posted before - I seem to recall having seen this somewhere, but not sure when or where).
  6. Al99

    Toxic Monogamy Culture

    My long distance girlfriend, Wendy, posted this on their local FB group - so thought I would share here as well. Some interesting thoughts. "What I mean when I say "toxic monogamy culture": the normalization of jealousy as an indicator of love the idea that a sufficiently intense love is...
  7. Al99

    A couple of notes on Robert Heinlein

    After listening to a podcast on poly and science fiction in which Robert Heinlein was the lead topic of the discussion, I wrote the following email to the presenters - as I did not feel they were fully versed on his works or his life. I thought that I would share it here as well - given that...
  8. Al99

    Unexpected Changes

    Hi Everyone - I hope that everyone is surviving the Apocalypse. I haven't had many opportunities to post here recently. The Covid situation has resulted in my wife, Becky, and I both working at home (I actually have been working at home for some time, but now we both are), all while now...
  9. Al99

    Real Voices of Poly (Podcast)

    I occasionally listen to some of the podcasts on, a very worthwhile poly podcast site - worth checking out, for those who have not already. I particularly enjoyed this podcast from a few weeks back - a collection of audio clips from "real" poly people...
  10. Al99

    Happy ILIC Day!

    My LDR partner posted this today (Valentines Day, 2020) on her Facebook Page. Although she confessed that she "borrowed" it from one of her local patners :) I found it wonderfully written and thought I would pass it on here. Happy ILIC Day, Poly Community! -------------------- Happy...
  11. Al99

    National Polyamory Day

    So apparently, some have decided that November 23 should be National Polyamory Day - anniversary of a pro poly court ruling in Canada. :)
  12. Al99

    Article: 6 celebrities who have opened up about their polyamorous relationships

    I saw a link to this on my FB page and thought I would share it as I suspect it reflects a gradually growing public awareness and acceptance of CNM and poly. Although personally I share Robert Heinlein's view of celebrity opinions: "The United States has become a place where entertainers and...
  13. Al99

    Video: The Tropes and Troubles With Unicorn Hunting

    Video: The Tropes and Troubles With Unicorn Hunting Presented by Kale on the website. (There is also a text transcription below the video)...
  14. Al99

    Unicorn Math

    Amusing poly math. :) (Click on the image to enlarge).
  15. Al99

    CBS News Documentary on CNM (10/27/19)

    Last night, Sunday, October 27, the CBS News 24/7 Streaming Service (CBSN) aired a documentary on Consensual Non-monogamy. The documentary is still currently available for streaming at the link below as of this posting. At this link, there is a video for the 23 minute main documentary. I...
  16. Al99

    Psychology Today Article on NRE (10/17/2019)

    New Relationship Energy: What It Is & How to Deal With It How to sustain long-term relationships when you have a new crush. Posted Oct 17, 2019 on the Psychology Today website, by Elisabeth Sheff, PhD, author of The Polyamorists Next Door...
  17. Al99

    Poly Pitfalls

    8 Pitfalls Of Being Polyamorous, Because Assumptions Can Ruin Relationships By KAE BURDO The link to this blog post was recently posted to one of the poly FB groups to which I belong, but the article is actually about three years old. But these same pitfalls do still seem to exist - imagine...
  18. Al99

    New Article by Elisabeth Sheff - Personal Growth Through CNM (8/4/2019)

    Personal Growth Through Consensual NonMonogamies Considering boundaries, facing shadows, and embracing spirit. by Elisabeth A. Sheff Ph.D., CSE (Author of The Polyamorists Next Door) Posted Aug 04, 2019, Psychology Today Website. This article is by a respected author in a respected periodical...
  19. Al99

    New York Times - New Poly Article (August 4, 2019)

    Polyamory Works for Them Having multiple partners can mean more pleasure, but it’s not always easy. Photographs by Yael Malka, Text by Alice Hines, Produced by Eve Lyons Significant 2300 word article on CNM and...
  20. Al99

    Blog Post: "The Switcheroo: When Openers Become Benchwarmers"

    This blog post is a couple of years old but found it when surfing around today - fun read. The Switcheroo: When Openers Become Benchwarmers