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    How to invite your wife into polyamory ?

    :D That’s so true....
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    How to invite your wife into polyamory ?

    My personal experience (mostly through Brazilian women I’ve talked with) is that Brazil is a rather patriarchal culture as well. So this tallies. Still, I hesitate to put people into cultural or ethnic “boxes” as we are all individual. However there are certainly cultural blinds spots we can...
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    How to invite your wife into polyamory ?

    The term is used in Brazil. BBC report - the “anti-homophobia kits” are termed “gay kits” in the vernacular.
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    How to invite your wife into polyamory ?

    I can warmly recommend this book to anyone dealing with BPD in any way. I only wish I had read it before I had started a relationship with someone suffering from it!
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    How to invite your wife into polyamory ?

    What I learn from this is you appear not to be able to hear anyone else’s voice other than your own. You may be intelligent, but you do seem to be lacking in wisdom. I suspect the fundamental issue here is that you are operating from a paternalistic paradigm that allows you to suffer under the...
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    When to disclosed mental health issues to new relationships

    I assume that is tongue-in-cheek. However I would strongly urge full disclosure as soon as a relationship appears to be more than a brief encounter. I’m finally recovering, two years later, from the aftermath of a relationship with a non-disclosed borderliner. She did not tell us that she had...
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    A letter to … my family – I wish I could tell you I’m in a ménage à trois

    Sounds like the Guardian was taken in by an imposter then. Unusual, but these things do happen. I wonder if they checked it out before publishing it?
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    A letter to … my family – I wish I could tell you I’m in a ménage à trois

    The article was written by a woman.... Did you read it?
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    A letter to … my family – I wish I could tell you I’m in a ménage à trois

    In today's Guardian: A letter to … my family – I wish I could tell you I’m in a ménage à trois
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    Husband with Insecurity and Anxiety

    Thanks. That must be an Americanism that I've not heard in the UK (or at least the part I lived in). I thought it was a typo which is why I asked. I now understand that it is "Stat, an abbreviation of the Latin statim, "immediately", often used in medical contexts such as in hospital...
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    Husband with Insecurity and Anxiety

    Sorry - could you explain what that means? That he needs a state therapist rather than one in private practice?
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    How to do I explain without sounding like I'm cheating.

    Please, please, can I have you as MY copy editor? <hug>. Seriously, that was excellent. :)
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    Polyamorous women aren’t just ‘pleasing their man’ – it’s a choice

    Polyamorous women aren’t just ‘pleasing their man’ – it’s a choice
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    Cheating, insecurities, jealousy, mental illness

    I don't do crazy. Been there, done that, learned the hard way. I would suggest preparing an exit strategy, now. Good luck!
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    Hello! *Waves Frantically*

    Wow! I didn't realise that Canadians know how to spell things correctly, as well as being sane :):) Been trying to work out how to build a TARDIS for years now. As far as I can tell it only works when you take a tab of acid first <joking>.
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    Accidentally poly, with baggage

    Take a deep breath, and sort out an (at least temporary) exit strategy. Give yourself some space to see things from a bit of distance and maybe get someone to talk to who hasn't got an agenda of their own. From the way you describe it the husband doesn't have much going for him. But you might...
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    Non-monogamy showed me what it really means to be with someone

    Interesting that the mainstream press would have such an article. Non-monogamy showed me what it really means to be with someone
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    Hurt and somewhat confused

    Indeed. Troll alert.
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