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  1. rolypoly

    Long distance love

    I searched the forum and haven't found a topic solely on this, so I'm starting one. (Hopefully I've searched thoroughly enough). I just got off the phone with Nerdist and we talked a little bit more about what we would like with each other if I do indeed move away. In my heart, I'm feeling most...
  2. rolypoly

    Getting into a relationship with a married person

    Mono wrote in another thread, (hope you don't mind Mono): This is another thing I need to talk about and instead of hijacking that thread, I'm making a new one. I can really see the wisdom in this, Mono. The new life you've started with RP and Polynerdist would have meant something very...
  3. rolypoly

    Ungrounded

    Hi Everyone, I've been very busy with computer work for the last long while and haven't felt very motivated to do even more typing than I already do, so I've been pretty absent around here. Sorry about that. I'm feeling the need to check back in. A lot has happened since I last posted. Bear...
  4. rolypoly

    Just how secondary does a secondary need to be?

    HAHA, whenever lots gets bottled up inside me, it tends to come out as a song. This one hasn't happened yet, but... So, I think I will explode if I don't get some of this off of my chest. For someone who swore off relationships a year ago, I certainly have a lot to say about them. ;) This...
  5. rolypoly

    Cracking Open

    It's been a while since I've posted or read on here. I'm trying to learn a programming language and I've had a lot of work on the computer, so typing long posts is daunting these days. Email is enough for the moment. I just wanted to pipe up and share how wonderful my weekend was!! I went to a...
  6. rolypoly

    Absent

    Just thought I'd post a quick note in here saying sorry I've been absent, hi I'm here, etc. I've been focusing on work mostly. Was broken up with and needed some time to sort through what it brought up for me, etc. Still lurking. :) Roly
  7. rolypoly

    How do your partners' other relationships affect you?

    This is a bit of an amalgamation of a few threads. http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1903 and http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=1190 for example. A couple things that have come up in my life have got me thinking this question. How much are you affected by the way...
  8. rolypoly

    Poly? Or lying?

    I have a dilemma. So, I've been seeing a guy for a couple months who's also been involved with a man long distance for the last year or so. He wants to break up with the guy, for different reasons. Right now, he's away staying with his "boyfriend" and I've been giving him space to sort things...
  9. rolypoly

    Is it possible to feel too much

    This is something I've thought a lot about over the years. We live in a largely non-feeling culture. There's this expectation to keep a stiff upper lip and keep things light. I've never fit into this. I'm someone who feels a lot and often. Whenever I write a good song, I think about how I...
  10. rolypoly

    If love is a need, how do you meet it?

    I didn't want to hijack another thread. (I think that thread was actually spawned from yet another thread. This is one hot topic)... I received a package of Non-Violent Communication books that were 70% off during Marshall Rosenberg's birthday. I am blissed out reading them all! The books have...
  11. rolypoly

    My "happy poly moment"

    My lover 'D' and her girlfriend came to visit me on Friday. We all trecked over to my new friend's, 'R's house (I have no idea what to call him). 'D' and 'R' got along well and it tickled me pink! At one point, we all went down to see some renos he had done over the summer. She and I were...
  12. rolypoly

    Finding balance in NRE

    Wow, I have so much knocking around my brain right now. I posted something about it in the Queer Poly section, but it's pretty dead in there. I've also started and deleted about three threads in this section because I had no idea where to begin. I read something redpepper just wrote in another...
  13. rolypoly

    Can one have a 'primary' partner for whom they are not 'primary'?

    Something that's come up a couple times and is resurfacing again. Having a partner in your life who for you is "primary", whatever that means for you. But, you don't have as much "importance" for them. I don't know how else to phrase it. Just thinking out loud, really. roly
  14. rolypoly

    Telling someone I'm poly and the problems that brings...

    I’ve had this experience a few times. I’m involved with someone in a poly arrangement. We go out dancing. A guy hits on me. Ok, then it gets complicated. What I want: To be able to move past the novelty, confusion and misrepresentations about poly. What actually happens: Telling a guy I’ve...
  15. rolypoly

    How you changed when you opened to poly?

    Here's what's been circling in my little head... In the past, when thinking about someone I had a crush on, I used to find all the things that scared me about them. As a perfect example, I recently talked to my new "crush" or "love interest" or whatever, (he's a friend, firstly). We talked...
  16. rolypoly

    The new spiritual awakening... and poly?

    This was inspired by Manno's post Paradigm Shift to Polyamory. This is what I thought that post was going to be about: Whether or not people are aware of it, there is a significant paradigm shift occurring on this planet right now. I am feeling it in unusual ways. Synchronicities, parallel...
  17. rolypoly

    Freedom? Or fear of intimacy?

    I've been doing some major soul searching and would like to begin by sharing some of what I've come up with. I usually do this sort of thing in my journal, but three of my friends, (all of which I have been involved with at some point) read the journal and I need complete freedom to say what...
  18. rolypoly

    Hi everyone. I just joined this forum.

    Hi everyone. I just joined this forum. This is probably the only forum/social media website on which I prefer to stay anonymous. That will tell you a lot about where I'm at in this stage of polyamory in my life. I'm a woman in my early 30s. I have, what I'm beginning to see, as a disjointed...
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