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  1. IsidoreNabi

    What is the weirdest thing you think is hot?

    The correct answer The correct answer: "None of your f***ing business." (I'm a displaced New Yorker.)
  2. IsidoreNabi

    What is the weirdest thing you think is hot?

    How many New Yorkers does it take to change a light bulb?
  3. IsidoreNabi

    Newbie Wondering about the Freedom to Do Things vs. Actually Doing Them

    My advice is to share your feelings with your partner. If you can't talk about your feelings and your desires, then you might have bigger problems than your sex life, and, as others have already pointed out, if you have problems in your current relationship, trying to have more relationships...
  4. IsidoreNabi

    Newbie Wondering about the Freedom to Do Things vs. Actually Doing Them

    Who ever said that was his motivation? Are you projecting your own motives on this guy or just trying to be unwelcoming to newcomers?
  5. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Note my use of the adverb, "almost." Where in the world am I supposed to have implied that? It really pisses me off when people start deliberately misinterpreting what I say, and I have much better things to do than teach remedial reading here, so I'm just going to take a break from this...
  6. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Hence the pronoun, "I." Yes, I believe I wrote that. Are you trying to piss me off, or are you just a world-class jerk?
  7. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    I didn't say it was. If I said, "the capital of Nebraska is Lincoln," would you feel compelled to inform me that Nebraska is a state, not a capital? Remember? I'm one of them.
  8. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Which is why I'll never go to a swing club or party. I've had friends offer to go with me, but when it came right down to it, I just didn't feel welcome. My friend was welcome with or without me, and they'd even tolerate me if we went together, but they clearly didn't want me there, so I didn't go.
  9. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    And it works perfectly, all the time. :roll eyes: The tragedy of monogamy is that people make commitments not to have feelings that they simply can't control, so when they, almost inevitably, experience these feelings, they don't know what to do. They can't talk to their spouse; their friends...
  10. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    That's what makes them fantasies, and just because yours might not be practical as the basis for establishing a viable household or community, that doesn't mean you shouldn't look for some way to give them life. They are in some way an expression of your desires, and if you can fulfill them...
  11. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Swinging, in my experience, involves some form of quid pro quo. For example, I am not welcome in a swing club or party unless I bring a female partner. I can't have sex with a female swinger unless her partner can have sex with my partner. I'm not comfortable with these arrangements, so I don't...
  12. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Her expectations might be unrealistic, but at least her temperament is well-suited to this sort of arrangement, and she really brings out the best in everyone whose lives she touches.
  13. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Dammit, now you're giving alienation a bad name. There's such a thing as not fitting in gracefully, y'know. You don't have to piss in the punchbowl and leave. Wait a sec. "Collarado" [sic]? Now I get it. Weed used to make me paranoid too. That's why I gave it up.
  14. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Truly? Really? I thought we could focus on whatever we choose, as long as we're honest about it. I'll admit that sex can be pretty wonderful in a serious, long-term relationship, but it's still way ahead of whatever's in second place just for it's own sake. It's, if memory serves, the best way...
  15. IsidoreNabi

    Polyamory HOUSE - Would you live here?

    Hi. Nice to meet you. :D
  16. IsidoreNabi

    Asexual Poly?

    I'll try to bear it in mind, should the need ever arise.
  17. IsidoreNabi

    Asexual Poly?

    That's easy for you to say. ;-)
  18. IsidoreNabi

    Asexual Poly?

    One of my biggest fears Apparently some guys feel as if they're entitled to have sex, and by saying "no" a woman is somehow depriving them of something. I was surprised to learn this. I've always seen sex and affection as gifts. If someone went out to dinner with me and we had a nice...
  19. IsidoreNabi

    Is polyamorism in men correlated with sex drive?

    I feel better now. I do like it when women try to connect, and I'm more than happy to go with the flow. I encourage a few things that help to make the experience more intimate, but, other than safer sex precautions, I don't insist on anything. When I was a young buck I was usually more...
  20. IsidoreNabi

    Asexual Poly?

    Yeah, but I like surprises, don't you? I'm only uncomfortable if people who don't even know me at all try to flirt with me. It isn't exactly a compliment. The only people I've had flirt with me whom I wouldn't consider sleeping with have been gay men, but I still find the attention very...
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