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    Mind says yes, body says no

    thoughts from a therapist working with primarily kink oriented lesbians... I would ask you to consider context: if your partner returned home from say, rock climbing with significant marks, but reported feeling more grounded, elated, while sore, would you feel the same set of turn offs? Is it...
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    Issues and need advice please

    hard to feel jealous when you're pretending it's all fantasy This sounds like your BF is trying to walk through life like a soft porn novel character; you know, people make irrational decisions, you never see protection used, issues like consent, respect, dignity might get interrupt the script...
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    Please tell me things will get better. I need to hear it.

    footnotes someone asked once "all this time, weeding, gardening, encouraging growth, and you go and bloom with someone else??" Sometimes, we're with people because they can help us grow, there's no promise they'll stay with us when we bloom, nor any promise we'll still want them once we do...
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    When Life Goals Change - Help with Advice / Comfort

    ultimatums, timelines, biology Just some psychology to back up some of yours, and other's, instincts. Please ask yourself these questions: Am I the kind of person who believes in blood-ties? or Do I believe family is what you make of it, regardless of biology or legal status? Does the...
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    Trouble with Primary- Where do I draw the line and where do I leave?

    crisis and red flags Bunnie, the previous posters are right - there are many red flags in your post. There might be reasons he hasn't worked in years, but his actions and behaviors towards you seem - to me - to actually be more troubling. Does he suffer with depression? Do mental health issues...
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    West Austin Counseling for clients participating in ethical non-monogamy

    I am, thanks! In Austin, a sex-positive group of us collaborate and act as a resource for clients, other therapists, and in some cases, the media. Additionally, we offer 101s to colleges and other groups who want to be more informed - Contemporary Relationships Conference and the like.
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    West Austin Counseling for clients participating in ethical non-monogamy

    Imagine this: Jane feels like she's struggling so after talking with her family, her friends, her lovers, starts thinking about talking to a therapist. She makes an appointment with someone who lists LGBTQ or sex therapist as specialties, but 15 minutes in, realized that the counselors' eyes are...
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