Search results

  1. Northerner

    Wedding ring

    I believe that orthodox christians wear the wedding ring on their right hand.
  2. Northerner

    open relationship issues wife keeps not sticking to rules

    "...So I set some ground rules." My first reaction is that ground rules need to be mutually agreed upon.
  3. Northerner

    Mentoring and Dating ENM Folks

    While there is nothing wrong with teaching or learning from the person(s) you are involved with, but I think that for effective mentorship a certain "emotional distance" is necessary. GalaGirl raises a good point about the conflict of interest.
  4. Northerner

    I outed myself publicly as poly!!!

    Wow, that took a lot of guts. I'm glad it worked out so well for you.
  5. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Thank you Evie, I'll give that some thought. Northerner
  6. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    The weekend went really well. Dale and Roy picked me up at the airport and we went for lunch. We did a few things as a trio so Roy and I could get to know each other a bit, but he also left Dale and me alone so we got some one on one time. I never felt "chaperoned" when we were all together, Roy...
  7. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi Angelina, Dale and Roy are not swingers, and have had bad experiences with nominally poly people who turned out to really be swingers - i.e. folks who were "just here for the sex." As noted above, I'm going to explore this with Dale. Northerner
  8. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi fuchka, I am comfortable with an ongoing LDR, that is exactly what Dale and I have been discussing. You have a good point about the domestic time and if this works out I will try to factor that in to my planning. I hope this will be a lot more than just a FWB relationship, if it was just...
  9. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi Meera, Yes, I have always recognized that I am poly, though I didn't have a name for it. I had few a successful relationships many years ago, then I tried mono for quite a few years but have returned to accepting my true nature. I am open to a local relationship but not actively pursuing one...
  10. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi Kevin, We have been using the phone a lot, and joking about acting like 13 year olds with NRE (i.e. talking on the phone for hours). We want to try Skype but I haven't had a lot of luck with Skype over satellite internet - she lives in a remote location. Although Dale's poly experience...
  11. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi Vicki, I am a loner. I like people, but only in small doses :-) For that reason I find that an LDR is perfect. Even when Tilly and I live together, we can go a week or even two without seeing each other (mostly due to conflicting work schedules). In another life I'd have been a hermit living...
  12. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    Hi Magdlyn, It didn't even occur to me to question that suggestion. My first poly relationship, back in the 70s was a Vee where the three of us did everything together, I would have to rate it as my most successful poly relationship to date even though none of us had a clue what we were doing...
  13. Northerner

    LDR Advice

    I have recently met a married poly lady on a dating site (Dale) and we have started developing a LDR - she lives several hours away. After a couple of weeks of text, email and phone calls we ( Me, Dale, & her husband Roy) have decided to meet and get to know each other better. All of my previous...
  14. Northerner

    not so noob newb

    I like that!
  15. Northerner

    Re-introduction

    Thanks Kevin. I am constantly impressed by the kind, thoughtful responses here to peoples' queries and problems. I hope that I can contribute a little more in the future.
  16. Northerner

    Re-introduction

    I have been quietly lurking and reading since joining in April 2018. I am re-introducing myself because of some significant changes in my life. My original intro is here: http://www.polyamory.com/forum/showthread.php?t=101247&highlight=northerner I (Northerner) am in a LTR with a mono partner...
  17. Northerner

    Calgary Alberta Active M-64

    I'm new to Calgary. I'm in a long term LDR with a woman in Ontario and have a married GF in Manitoba. I am looking to meet like minded people for friends first, more if the chemistry is there.
  18. Northerner

    Question for the Romantics

    We have been in "declutter mode" for several years, so our rule on gifts is that they must be "consumable." For me that generally means concert tickets or single malt scotch :-)
  19. Northerner

    A little late intro

    Welcome I love that analogy, it describes my view of polyamory perfectly. Rob
  20. Northerner

    Canada anyone?

    Ontario Working in Toronto, living north of Cobourg.
Back
Top