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    A Poly Dissertation Blog

    Hello everyone. I have a new blog, in which I document/detail my dissertation work, which is going to be about polyamory in regards to the field of English studies broadly (and the specific subfield is "rhetoric and composition"). Here it is: http://rhetcomppolydiss.wordpress.com/ Thanks for...
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    How do you know?

    How do you know when you genuinely want to be intimate with someone? I ask this because: My husband began dating another woman, a friend of mine. I was/am cool with it; however, I've had moments of jealousy because they both have jobs that make it easier to have free time and socialize. I've...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    reply to Immaterial Immaterial--I see what you are trying to say, and you seem to have picked up on my expectation. Ew, that is a gross and dark side of me. Yes, I've decided to give up on the sexual thing with her. yup. I'm so glad for this group, to give me some clarity on that. My question...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    Well, RedPepper, perhaps my post was misleading. She has, on multiple occasions, seemed turned on by my female body. The problem with her, I think, is that she can't get past the idea that monogamy is the ideal. She was only married a year ago. For her, sex is suspect; it's dangerous; it's...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    Thanks for the input, Ariakas, on the term "bi curious." Part of the reason why I was confused, is because there seems to be so many manifestations of "bi." Case in point: My husband identifies at "bi"--yet he has never had a sexual encounter with a man. He chooses to label himself bi for...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    Bi curious? Whoah! I am feeling more lost now. I understand why Immaterial may have gotten that impression--my "mood" of that moment (while typing) was anger/rage, but, in general, I am loving and generous and patient and compassionate with her. We come from very different values/backgrounds...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    jkelly, That's true. I have been patient, going at her "pace," this whole time. What makes me want to stop being her lover is this: The nagging feeling that I am being duped somehow. Also, I want her to teach me something about sex! At the very least, I want her to have the courage to rise to my...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    Dear Ariakas, Thank you for your reply! What you say seems right. And relieving. I supose I am just feeling like I am done being so patient, as I have been for so long. I feel like both my husband and I have been playing "sex teacher" to both her and him (When we all met up for the first time...
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    Poly gal in love with gal with is fearful/conservative/virginal/etc

    My primary and I have been discussing polyamory (in the non-actual sense; it's been just strictly theoretical) since he and I were “boyfriend/girlfriend.” Now, we are married. We’ve been married for 2 years. Very happily. I have had, for also nearly 2 years, a very very close woman (I am a...
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