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    "I'm not leaving you, I'm leaving poly."

    My partner of just under a year, Pike, is thinking of ending our relationship, not because of anything to do with us -- things have been great with us -- but because he's not sure he wants to do poly any more. And not because he's naturally monogamous -- he actually seems very well adapted to...
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    Tucson, AZ recommendations?

    I’m going on a trip to Tucson, AZ for a week in July with no particular itinerary except to attend a friend’s wedding and then relax as much as possible. I’ll be staying at a hostel in the heart of the city and plan to do most of my exploring there, though I might rent a car for a day and go see...
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    In NRE but can't see my partner

    Argh. This is not really poly-specific, as this could happen in an LDR, or in a mono relationship where one or both partners is/are just very busy. But since my situation is a poly situation, I figured it'd be cool to post it here. So, I've been seeing this guy for about a month. I'm head over...
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    On getting a kick out of couples

    I have a thing for happy couples, there's no denying it. I am in no way a couple-hunting would-be-unicorn -- I'm well aware that relationships form between individuals, not between a person and a structure ("the couple"), and that angling for any particular configuration to emerge from a given...
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    Affection in front of metamours

    In your relationships, how acceptable is it to show affection to a partner in front of that partner's other partner(s) (your metamour(s))? I got to thinking about this because of a post in which someone was talking about feeling sad when she saw her partner cuddling with his new partner (this...
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    "Dear Mr. and Mrs. UH, I'm not sure how to say this, but..."

    Hey all. I thought about tacking this on to one of a couple of different related threads but decided it fit best as a stand alone. I'm thinking about the way we as a community approach people who come to the boards seeking advice on a topic that we think is problematic. Particularly I'm...
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    Types of 2+1 relationships

    Poly can work in many ways. One common way that polyamorous relationships develop is for one or both members of a "preexisting" couple to get involved with a new person (by preexisting, I mean that their relationship predates the relationship(s) with the newer partner). We can call these 2+1...
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    My girlfriend's husband bumper sticker

    http://photos-g.ak.fbcdn.net/hphotos-ak-prn1/s480x480/524910_3130593349853_1415333794_32152995_302548223_n.jpg Thought some of you might appreciate this. :D Sadly, for any who might think of getting it, it will almost certainly not be taken as an honest, polyamorous statement.
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    Poly quiz, just for fun

    Came up with this today after asking myself what I would be personally interested in thinking/writing about: 1) Define "polyamory" in a sentence or phrase. 2) Give us a quick snapshot of yourself. Whatever you want to share in a few sentences, including whether or not you ID as poly. 3) How...
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    "For Lovers and Fighters"

    http://makezine.enoughenough.org/newpoly2.html I thought I'd leave this essay here to see if it generates a discussion. The author examines polyamory from a queer, trans, and anti-capitalist point of view. I enjoyed it -- the overall tone is very positive, seeing poly as a natural expression of...
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    Why Poly Gets A Bad Rap

    http://theferrett.livejournal.com/1707627.html A post about poly by the popular blogger The Ferret. I thought I'd leave it here in case anyone has thoughts to share. Personally, I just think he makes a really good point.
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    Workout tunes

    I'm putting together some playlists for cardio, anybody wanna suggest songs?
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    Genderswapped Archie/Betty/Veronica threesome valentine??

    Yes indeed. http://www.comicsalliance.com/2012/02/09/gender-swapped-archie-betty-veronica-valentines/
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    on taking life as it comes

    I find the idea of "taking life as it comes" to be central to my understanding of successful polyamory. In Western society's traditional mold, the expectation is that you will date around a little, find the person who completes you, get married and have kids. If you're unlucky or chose poorly...
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    Switching gears

    So, I imagine this happens to a lot of poly people. You're with lover A and you accidentally use a technique that's adored by lover B but that lover A hates. Embarrassing!! For me, it would happen with light, stroking touches with the fingertips. Davis finds it very sensual, Gia finds it very...
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    Babies and changes in poly

    When someone in a happy poly tangle has a new baby, I think we can all agree that it affects the relationships involved. If you have input on one or more of the thoughts below, please share! If you've had a baby while ID'ing as poly... Did you take a break from relationships that weren't with...
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    Three-parent children, literally

    http://m.wired.com/wiredscience/2008/02/calling-jerry-s/ This is an old article, but I hadn't heard of it before -- apparently science has made some strides toward three-parent embryos, for health reasons (if something's wrong with one person's mitochondria), though the reality of a...
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    End of normal

    Wonderful article about a world in which we all deal with our jealousy, whether poly or mono, we all examine gender roles, whether queer or straight, and we all set enthusiastic consent as the standard for sexual engagement, whether vanilla or kinky...
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    Coming in as a "third" or "secondary" -- easier for some than others?

    Coming in as a "third" or "secondary" -- easier for some than others? While reading an old thread, I found that this post of Mono's really struck a chord for me: "To aproach the idea of being a third from my perspective I use the concept of the supporting actor. I have always preferred not to...
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    practicing poly but not ID'ing as poly?

    So, in the thread on porn, three different people just mentioned that they don't self-identify as poly. This interests me, but I didn't want to derail the thread any more than we already had, so here's a new one. This thread is not not NOT about telling anyone how they should self-identify...
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