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Update: Eight Years Later Reading through this thread, gosh I was so young and so caught up in my own feelings and desires. I don't know if anyone who commented is still active here, but I wanted to tell you that she married this man, who is absolutely wonderful, in 2016. They became open a...

A good way of putting it, and it reminds me of Franklin Veaux's "Don't treat people as things." Obvious and yet... it needs saying. :)

I've been thinking a lot about my view of polyamory. While I'm not monogamous by orientation, I also don't want completely open polyamory. Open polyamory seems like it often involves a lot of relationships in flux, always being defined and redefined (or not defined at all!). As a somewhat...

I've read all this blog. How fascinating! Thanks for sharing! I'm glad you seem happy, though it seems that Butch has SERIOUS boundary issues that squick me out. :/ Speaking as someone who is into BDSM: the worst thing is to ignore someone's "no."

This is helpful, particularly the "Avoid the Pitfalls of Polyamory" notes, which I hadn't seen before! :) Thanks!

Article/resources on when you're ready to open up? Hi all, I'm in my first poly committed relationship with my boyfriend, A. This is not his first committed relationship, but it's his first polyamorous one. He cares about me a lot, but he seems not to have had much practice or experience...

We often find each other cute. Thank you for being so sweet and for pointing this out. :)

A happy update! We're taking small steps - there are two particular women I know well whom I've given him permission to sleep with. For now, I've asked him to check in beforehand if I'm around / let me know by text or email if I'm asleep or not around. I've also asked him to come cuddle with...

Yeah, that kind of sex makes me feel empty. I don't like it - I've been fingered to orgasm by strangers, and it made me feel strange enough that I never went further. The natural chemicals became disturbing to me. Yep, 21. We have sex almost every day - best sex we've ever had. There's only...

Thanks, everyone, for your kindness and advice!

I told her prior to the encounter that I wanted to do it precisely because I was nervous and struggling with jealousy, and she was really sweet about it. :) She seems able to have sex without romantic feelings, yes. She's been sleeping around and exploring a lot recently (including a really hot...

So, I decided to do something to make things seem less scary, and that is confronting my fears head-on. I invited a friend of mine to join us so he could give her oral with me there. Watching him with her incited little twinges of jealousy but wasn't that scary, honestly. Then something...

This is a really good thing to think about! Thank you. I've thought before about whether I might be monogamous, but truly... I'm not. My greatest desire is for a poly family - a triad especially, but I'd also be happy with a V or an N. I think I would prefer to be flexibly polyfi - occasional...

It seems like the wall of text might be scaring people off? :D Sorry, folks. Tl;dr: I'm in a new, committed poly relationship where we're each others' only partners right now. I feel compersion when he kisses other people and jealousy when I think of him having sex with other people. But I've...

I posted here last year, and y'all gave me the most centering, useful advice I could possibly have asked for. Thank you! :) (All those situations have, as most things do in the end, turned out well in their own ways.) This may be the happiest post I've ever made on this site, so yay! :) I...

I just need to complain. My heart hurts. When I thought I was monogamous by orientation, people I dated whom I really liked were often open to being in relationships with me. Now, I think I want a poly or non-prescriptive mono (mono but open to poly) life in my future. Most of the people I...

Thank you for the support. I'm feeling much better. I was right. She has the uncanny ability to make me feel peaceful. We talked about all my major crushes (about twenty) and hers (about two, ever) and it was all put in perspective. I believe that were she poly by nature and were crushes not so...

Thanks! I'm rather fond of my head, myself. :)

Victorian Rotating Triple Locket: http://www.thinkgeek.com/tshirts-apparel/jewelry/ee4e/?cpg=40632010 I saw this and instantly thought how lovely this would be for a quad or for a triad or V who have a child. :) And the description is poly-friendly, too! (And generally non-normative!)...

A note from E, summarized: * We talked today. She's been thinking a lot today about it. * It's hard for her to think about relationships. Romantic feelings are mild and rare for her, so it's hard for her to identify and categorize her feelings for people. * I mean very much to her as a...