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I agree, very good points.

If I thoght I could forget about her I would, there is no chance. Besides, pretending not loving someone is kind of cheating yourself..and your partner.

I'm just asking how it works for other people...

where would you draw the line?

Thank you both :) RedPepper, so you don't have sex with your other partners? I had a weird talk yesterday with my boyfriend... he was saying something about compromising about feelings. I don't feel good about that.. I don't want to/can't/not willing to/etc.. to do something to get rid of my...

What is compromising in a poly relationship to you? What are the limits? where you won't compromise?

1) Define "polyamory" in a sentence or phrase. For me it is the ability to love more than one (personaly for me, I can be totally satisfied with one man and one woman) without secrets, with understanding, no lying and all that.. 2) Give us a quick snapshot of yourself. Whatever you want to...

He said he is gonna go and accept me and all that I told him and try to enjoy it rather than get man all the time and hope I forget her... I hope it works.. O.o

Thanks for the reply :) I am trying to hang in there, even when I feel really bad.. it is just so hard (but much easier than holding things inside\beating around the bush) He can't join me here for a few reasons. He says he is not comfortable readong stuff.. (but I think he does read them...

So, after whining here a lot about why I can't come straight forward to my bf, I did it anyway. It was hardest thing to do, and very emotional, depressing and all that. But he said he will try to understand me, it will take time. I even showed him some stuff to read about poly, he didn't like...

yeah, I can call it 'went well', but as I said it feels like i'm hurting him..but I love him so much :\

I just let it all out and even used the word 'polyamory'. blah blah blah (had long talks through some nights) Decided to stay together and that he will need time and try to undertand me and accept me as I am. I feel SO relieved now, should have done it before. But I feel like I'm hurting him...

I didn't read other replies here only your first post. You are really amazing, I wish to reach that situation with my boyfriend. hope it all works out. :)

We had the talk... should I post it here or in another thread? because it is all on a different level now..

thanks :D I hope it works this time.. I so want to be happy for once

kdt26417 and Phy, you are both so right.. I know only time is needed.. Boyfriend finally agreed to listen to what this 'polyamory' is and why I am so caught up in it.. (that happened after a weird kind of a talk that almost sent us apart in different ways, but that wasn't the right thing to...

while talking on the phone at night we agreed he would take interest in my polyamory thoughts and see what it is.. :\

He knows I really like her and he is not entirely okay with that. I wasn't beating around the bush anymore but delivering it to him lowly. And then about an hour ago I just 'vomited' my feelings out, just before he had to go to his night shift. I really love him and don't want to hurt him in...

I just don't think it is a good idea to go straight forward and list my demands out of the blue to someone who never thought that things like that exist. Thanks to this forum I am not beating around the bush anymore, but taking it slowly. Of course I am making mistakes as I am lacking 'tools'...

As I said he is not seeking emotional relationship only bdsm things outside of other relationships and I let him, and he does stuff ith woman and men. He is not bi, he is bi-curios. as for meaningful relationships, IF he was looking for one I would be more ok if it was with a man (same gender)...