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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    breaking off I have no idea where my life is going, again. We are physically living together, but, I am not able to control feelings of loss and spend my nights in tears. I used to do that when I was alone, but, now, when someone else is sleeping next to you, snoring is the right word...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    thanks a lot, everyone...I keep these things in mind...though, it is difficult for me to live with the "death of love" which is how I am experiencing these things, though, it need not be, since he is taking the effort to keep my relationship also. Hopefully, things will work out...will keep you...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    I understand, I am also responsible for this situation. I am in a kind of job where it is impossible for me to just leave, since the financial implications if I leave before two months is something I cannot bear. I am in touch over the phone regularly with him and keep reassuaring him that I...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    The latest is that my husband is having uncontrollable panic attacks. He has decided to cut off from his affair, but not able to in practice. He is pulled from both sides, from me and from her. I dont know how to deal with these situations. I increasingly feel I will have to now become a...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- "You maybe the perfect candidate for a secondary poly relationship...." I had never thought about that possibility till you articulated it. I am just trying to sink in the information, first of all. I dont know...
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    Introducing Kevin T

    Welcome Kevin...I didnt know you were talking to me before you introduced yourselves! How kind? :)
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    Dear Dingedheart, I think I did make a mistake about taking up a job so far away. And, yes, intimacies also include all that you mentioned...and, it is not about sex alone. But, as a woman, I was the type who would feel threatened if I was asked to make "sacrifices" in relationships. And, here...
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    a looong 1st post

    What happened? Hope you are allright?
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    Dear Dingedheart, I have never really thought out from where this idea of living together started getting problematic for me. From the beginning, as a sixteen year old girl, I had ideas of living with women, though I am straight (at least, all my romances have been with men). I have lived most...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    "What if it happened (next time) at a different pace (slower), in a different way (with your foreknowledge), and in an open communication kind of way? What then?" I am not in a position to think right now...but, I do not say a clear "no" though my husband has lost trust in me. I will just...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    Yes, I realize “No one else can actually tell me the right and fair thing.” I said, he is clear what he wants, the latest is that, I am not so sure of that also. After these discussions, I got some perspective, talking to others, but, mostly talking to myself about my own narrative...and, it...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    thanks a lot Kevin. T. You were very understanding, Regards
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    Thanks a lot for the quality time you are giving me. Let me try to answer the first question - "Well, what did you think it (an open relationship )was at the time?" which I am asking to myself now, and which I find difficult to answer - for that you need to know my history. I do not and did...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    After one of my "melt downs" where I shouted at both of them over the phone, he has decided to "end" it. right now, he has moved out of the city she is there, for the next two months. But, communication between them has not ended. True, I feel a bit more secure with that reassuarance that I...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    the slide in the relationship happened two months ago, i have visited him once after that.
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    I visit him every three months for ten days or so. once a year, we spend three months together, this is going on for the past three years.
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    I am in an LDR for an obvious reason - work. But, I think, I am in an LDR also because I feared the loss of intimacy if we lived together...I was not saying this to myself, and till this melt down happened, and he blamed me for leaving him, did I even understand that I was deliberately...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    What is the right and fair thing by both of us now? Is there something like that? He is clear what he wants, he wants both of us...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    Dear Nancy, Thanks again for response. Among both of us, I was the one who was hesitantly considering opening the relationship, actually! I had a feeling that monogamy might lead towards oppressive dishonesties and I was aware that both of us, or one of us can fall out of NRE and then, other...
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    How to deal with feelings of rejection?

    thanks for the response, Nancy. It is not true that he is an old player in the field and he knew about poly more than me. We both dont. He has started this relationship and we have wandered into this. I would like to explore it, since I still love him deeply and do not want to destroy my...
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